Aggravated With Louisiana

[Lissa]

Hi, everyone! I spoke with an attorney today and he says that the law here in Louisiana will not allow a person to voluntarily give up their rights even if both parents agree to it. The only way they would do it is through adoption and you would have to be married for a certain amount of time to do so. Also, their rights could be terminated only if louisiana sees it is in the best interest of the child. I don't understand this. How can they do this? If both parents agree to one giving up their rights how can they make them keep them? The bio father of my child has not been in our sons life but off and on in the first 2 months of his life and has not cared to see or contact him since. He doesn't want anything to do with my son or me. He would say that to anyone! How can they make it where he can not give up his rights even if I agreed to it? My finace has been in my sons life since he was 2 1/2 months old and took care of him and I ever since.... and my son is now 2 years old! Also, the bio father did not give a single thing to the child when he was around. Me and my family got him everything my son needed cuz he chose to buy his drugs and cigarettes with what little bit of money he made. This makes me furious. Is there a way around this law, cuz I believe I know my son better than this state and I know what is best for him and obviously the biological father does too cuz he wants to give up his rights. How can he give up his rights?? I don't want to wait for 2 years or so of being married for my fiance to adopt him. I want this madness to end now. It's our son! It's our choice! He wants to give up his rights, right now and so do I! My fiance wants to adopt and it is really sad that we have to be married for a certain amount of time before he can when I was NEVER married to the biological father and he was able to sign for his rights. Why can't he take his name off and my fiance can sign the parental rights affidavit form just like how the bio father did? There must be a way to do this. The bio father would have never signed that paper if he actually have read it. He would EVEN tell the courts that. How can we go around this law? Also, the bio father didn't have to adopt him and there was no proof he was the bio father and also no one even asked. All he did was sign his signature by the x the second he seen it and that was it. Didn't have to adopt and NO MONEY NEEDED. Please help me. I'd appreciate it.


Sincerely,
Lissa

 

[Lissa]

Another Thing

Does there have to be a person waiting to adopt my son even if bio father loses his rights and I would like to know if someone can tell me the chances of that happening with what I have stated above? Oh, I also had to get a restraining order on him when my child was 2 months old cuz he came home drunk and in a rage. He threw me down and made me land on my son and he seen him laying behind me on the bed. He was sent to jail for 3 months for violating the restraining order and for probation violations and unpaid court fees. I am not single and my fiance has been in his life for almost 2 years now. We're not getting married until we move into our own house instead of living in a rental home. That will be late next year when that happens. I really don't see why we would have to be married first though. Thats a bit stupid due to the fact that I wasn't married to the bio father. I know I already stated that but I can't get over that. I don't see a difference in any of it. Just a heck of a lot better person. I mean as far as anyone knows,(except for me), they don't know he is the bi father cuz no one asked when he signed the paper.UGH! he didn't even know what he was signing. Why is it that they try and hold onto that first person who signs the Parental Rights Affidavit even though they aren't in the child's life and really never was in my case. When he was around off and on those first 2 months, he was playing his play station games in the bedroom while I was always downstairs and running everywhere else tending to the baby's needs cuz he claimed that he didn't want to make the formula wrong (poor excuse) and oh the favorite of most childish men......I AM NOT CHANGING ANY DIAPERS! My fiance takes the first offer on changing diapers and he was the one who broke his neck to get out of bed for those late night feeding I am happy he is in my life. I just hope the bio father will lose his rights so we can be a step closer to tying this family. Let me know something and I will greatly appreciate it.