fanaerosmith
New Member
I have questions about adoption of my grandchildren. I will be adopting 2 of my grandchildren soon. The parents will be getting mediated adoption. I have agreed to let the mother have liberal visitation and the father restricted visitation. The father has requested that the children keep his last name after the adoption is final and I would like them to have mine. Someone suggested to me that I do a hyphenated name. That sounds ok. But, I would prefer them to have my last name. I have a grandfather who was adopted and his last name was changed. When doing my genealogy, we did not include his adoptive parents in our family tree and included his biological parents, as they are blood. The father is afraid the kids will lose their identity and he wants them to be able to find him and vice versa, in the future. I know that because we do keep genealogy that the kids will always know their biological parents no matter what their name is or isn't. I just would like to know what the general concensus is concerning the changing of children's last names when adopting them. I also think that because they went from relatives to other relatives (myself being their grandmother and soon their legal mother), that I can and will make sure their heredity is evident. I mean no matter where they would have ended up, they have heritage that even adoption cannot take away. So, my last name or the father's? What do you all think? Thanks
