isopropoflex
New Member
Hi all,
I have a bit of an odd situation I don't know exactly what to do about. It's a long-ish story, but I'll try to sum it up briefly.
My wife and I originally met online before we got married some 5.5 years ago. At that time (before we got married) we knew and talked to quite a few other people online. One such person (a guy from CA) developed an obsession with my wife (then GF) back then, and wanted desperately to meet her (he was convinced meeting her would change her mind about getting married to me, as she would surely choose him instead). At the time, to convince her he was a 'trustworthy' person, he sent her all his private into (names, address, SS#, names of parents, etc.). She still didn't want to meet him, but he ended up just showing up at her work one night (and got escorted out by armed security). He continued stalking her (us) until I told him off and told him to stay away.
Fast forward to about a year ago. I start receiving weird anonymous e-mails from some person who doesn't want to identify themselves. The messages started along the lines of "I know you, but you don't know who I am" and "I have been trying to track you down by any means available to me over the past year or so". This got ugly after a while (I started receiving phonecalls even), and finally he identified himself as the stalker guy from before. I again told him not ever to contact me again, and if he would, I would do anything in my power to try and dig up any information of his from old chat logs and hand it to the police for stalking. Now, I did make reference to his sending my wife all his information before, though I have never once seen this elusive file with personal information, and my wife says it has been deleted long ago. If it still existed, it would've been in the cops' hands a long time ago.
Now this person has returned once again demanding we (I) sign some contract stating we have none of his information (which neither my wife or I have any intention of doing), or he claims he is going to "go to the FBI" with our names and address for investigation for stealing his identity. He set a deadline by which this would happen (04/15).
About a month ago we made a report of this situation at our local police station, and the cop we spoke with basically laughed at the idea of his claim he will frame me for ID theft. What do you guys think about this? Is there anything I can/should do to prematurely derail any possible damage coming from such a false allegation?
In a nutshell:
- I have never laid eyes on any of his personal information
- we have told him very clearly that we don't have any of his information
- there is no proof any identity theft related activities ever occurred or originated from myself (or my wife for that matter) - this makes sense since we never did anything
- this person gave out the information voluntarily to my wife (she actually never wanted it, but he sent it anyway) and has himself stated so in his e-mails
- he has threatened before to frame me for this stuff, claiming it would be a bad thing for me considering my personal background (I'm a programmer)
- he has threatened in his correspondence that if we were to take any police action beforehand (in the form of a restraining order or lawsuit for stalking) it would just make him angry and he would just continue to monitor and track us and any family and friends once he got out just on principle.
- he has found out where we live and has said he will come out to where we live if this is still going on come summer time
The police seem to be doing very little about this. With as much as stalking is this big thing and supposedly a highly punishable offence, they don't seem to want to do anything unless someone gets hurt.
Either way, as much as I'm sure there is not much of a case here if any (for his ID theft charges), I don't want to have the bad luck of running into some prosecutor who decides to take this seriously and get messed up in a big way by some lawsuit and outrageous attorney fees for something that's got absolutely no basis in truth.
Thanks for any thoughts on this matter.
I have a bit of an odd situation I don't know exactly what to do about. It's a long-ish story, but I'll try to sum it up briefly.
My wife and I originally met online before we got married some 5.5 years ago. At that time (before we got married) we knew and talked to quite a few other people online. One such person (a guy from CA) developed an obsession with my wife (then GF) back then, and wanted desperately to meet her (he was convinced meeting her would change her mind about getting married to me, as she would surely choose him instead). At the time, to convince her he was a 'trustworthy' person, he sent her all his private into (names, address, SS#, names of parents, etc.). She still didn't want to meet him, but he ended up just showing up at her work one night (and got escorted out by armed security). He continued stalking her (us) until I told him off and told him to stay away.
Fast forward to about a year ago. I start receiving weird anonymous e-mails from some person who doesn't want to identify themselves. The messages started along the lines of "I know you, but you don't know who I am" and "I have been trying to track you down by any means available to me over the past year or so". This got ugly after a while (I started receiving phonecalls even), and finally he identified himself as the stalker guy from before. I again told him not ever to contact me again, and if he would, I would do anything in my power to try and dig up any information of his from old chat logs and hand it to the police for stalking. Now, I did make reference to his sending my wife all his information before, though I have never once seen this elusive file with personal information, and my wife says it has been deleted long ago. If it still existed, it would've been in the cops' hands a long time ago.
Now this person has returned once again demanding we (I) sign some contract stating we have none of his information (which neither my wife or I have any intention of doing), or he claims he is going to "go to the FBI" with our names and address for investigation for stealing his identity. He set a deadline by which this would happen (04/15).
About a month ago we made a report of this situation at our local police station, and the cop we spoke with basically laughed at the idea of his claim he will frame me for ID theft. What do you guys think about this? Is there anything I can/should do to prematurely derail any possible damage coming from such a false allegation?
In a nutshell:
- I have never laid eyes on any of his personal information
- we have told him very clearly that we don't have any of his information
- there is no proof any identity theft related activities ever occurred or originated from myself (or my wife for that matter) - this makes sense since we never did anything
- this person gave out the information voluntarily to my wife (she actually never wanted it, but he sent it anyway) and has himself stated so in his e-mails
- he has threatened before to frame me for this stuff, claiming it would be a bad thing for me considering my personal background (I'm a programmer)
- he has threatened in his correspondence that if we were to take any police action beforehand (in the form of a restraining order or lawsuit for stalking) it would just make him angry and he would just continue to monitor and track us and any family and friends once he got out just on principle.
- he has found out where we live and has said he will come out to where we live if this is still going on come summer time
The police seem to be doing very little about this. With as much as stalking is this big thing and supposedly a highly punishable offence, they don't seem to want to do anything unless someone gets hurt.
Either way, as much as I'm sure there is not much of a case here if any (for his ID theft charges), I don't want to have the bad luck of running into some prosecutor who decides to take this seriously and get messed up in a big way by some lawsuit and outrageous attorney fees for something that's got absolutely no basis in truth.
Thanks for any thoughts on this matter.