Virginia May
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- California
Before I start, I should mention some things:
- This is all online
- The "pedo" is in the same state as me
- We have a 10+ year age gap
I'll give him a placeholder name like James.
So it all started when I was around 12; he was in his 20s
I don't remember how the joking started, but we didn't know each other well and were barely becoming friends. I think the joke stemmed from someone else making it and James embracing it.
I went along with it, and I didn't really know better. We would flirt with each other often and it would increasingly get worse and worse as time went on.
When I say it was bad, I mean he and I would private message each other often just to flirt and he'd "joke" about "raping" me and "wanting to put me in his basement" and "use me as a sex object". There was a lot more to it but that was what we joked about the most. Stuff like that.
He always passed it off as a joke though and said he'd never want to do that unless I was of age. He did jokingly imply that he'd be willing to meet me and have sex once I'm 18 if I'd be down though but I'm not sure if that's relevant or not. Regardless, it didn't stop him from flirting with me regularly.
I used to have a crush on him, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy it at the time. He reassured me countless times that it was okay, legal, and just a joke, and he still does that to this day.
Around the time I turned 13, the jokes started becoming increasingly uncomfortable as I lost interest in him, however, that wouldn't stop him, if anything, it encouraged him.
Finally, it got to a point where I'd tell him to stop, and he would, but also wouldn't take my feelings seriously at all. He'd act very passive-aggressive and blame my feelings on puberty or something like that. He'd also tell me it's my fault and I put it on myself for originally encouraging it, and for the longest time, I believed him, and finally felt guilty enough to keep letting him and others continue those jokes.
It was until recently when he finally stopped after a friend of mine called him out. He was more passive-aggressive than ever though and it took me screaming at him about it to treat me normally again.
I feel like it's also important to mention, he flirted with my underage friends too, but not nearly as much. Especially one friend in particular who was 15 at the time. She didn't like the jokes at all but never encouraged him to stop or anything. He was a lot more forceful and desperate to flirt with her. However, since she barely played along, it didn't last.
I wanted to ask
is any of this illegal?
I can elaborate on anything else if you need me to, but I've been wondering if anything he's done to me is illegal or not and if it really is my fault.
- This is all online
- The "pedo" is in the same state as me
- We have a 10+ year age gap
I'll give him a placeholder name like James.
So it all started when I was around 12; he was in his 20s
I don't remember how the joking started, but we didn't know each other well and were barely becoming friends. I think the joke stemmed from someone else making it and James embracing it.
I went along with it, and I didn't really know better. We would flirt with each other often and it would increasingly get worse and worse as time went on.
When I say it was bad, I mean he and I would private message each other often just to flirt and he'd "joke" about "raping" me and "wanting to put me in his basement" and "use me as a sex object". There was a lot more to it but that was what we joked about the most. Stuff like that.
He always passed it off as a joke though and said he'd never want to do that unless I was of age. He did jokingly imply that he'd be willing to meet me and have sex once I'm 18 if I'd be down though but I'm not sure if that's relevant or not. Regardless, it didn't stop him from flirting with me regularly.
I used to have a crush on him, and I'd be lying if I said I didn't enjoy it at the time. He reassured me countless times that it was okay, legal, and just a joke, and he still does that to this day.
Around the time I turned 13, the jokes started becoming increasingly uncomfortable as I lost interest in him, however, that wouldn't stop him, if anything, it encouraged him.
Finally, it got to a point where I'd tell him to stop, and he would, but also wouldn't take my feelings seriously at all. He'd act very passive-aggressive and blame my feelings on puberty or something like that. He'd also tell me it's my fault and I put it on myself for originally encouraging it, and for the longest time, I believed him, and finally felt guilty enough to keep letting him and others continue those jokes.
It was until recently when he finally stopped after a friend of mine called him out. He was more passive-aggressive than ever though and it took me screaming at him about it to treat me normally again.
I feel like it's also important to mention, he flirted with my underage friends too, but not nearly as much. Especially one friend in particular who was 15 at the time. She didn't like the jokes at all but never encouraged him to stop or anything. He was a lot more forceful and desperate to flirt with her. However, since she barely played along, it didn't last.
I wanted to ask
is any of this illegal?
I can elaborate on anything else if you need me to, but I've been wondering if anything he's done to me is illegal or not and if it really is my fault.