My ex moved out of the home in the middle of December, and has not been able to see him because he wasn't able to feed him when my son was visiting with him, and refused to call me when he couldn't get him to eat. He went almost eight hours without eating every time he saw his father. I have since left my job, and take care of our son full time. Our son is expected to live 3-7 years, but nobody can tell us exactly how long, due to a genetic disease.
Now, the father wants joint legal custody, so that he can make medical decisions, he specifically mentioned life support, do not resustitate orders, etc. My reservations come in his inability to care for him now. Our son requires 24 hour care, and I am the one who provides it. OUr son has many doctors, and most of them have never met the father. The father doesn't understand all that goes into making medical decisions. He left a message on my machine saying all I do is sit around all day, and that I'm a waste case, even though he knows our son has seizures every single day, and takes eight medications twice a day. In the court papers, he even misspelled the name of the disease, completely. He admits physical custody should go to me, but believes at some point he should be allowed to have overnights. He doesn't understand, and I don't know how to explain, that our son's very medically fragile. Also, he knows nothing about the disease, and all he knows about it is what I tell him. What should I do? Someone suggested asking to bring in a medical professional, such as his pediatrician, to evaluate the situation, and give a report to the judge. How would this work? Also, I don't want to be arguing at my son's bedside over life and death decisions, and what if I can't get a hold of him? I have a domestic violence restraining order against him, and the third party, his dad, sometimes takes a week to call me back. What if I need to make a decision, but can't because I haven't heard from him?I would greatly appreciate any advice.
Thanks
Now, the father wants joint legal custody, so that he can make medical decisions, he specifically mentioned life support, do not resustitate orders, etc. My reservations come in his inability to care for him now. Our son requires 24 hour care, and I am the one who provides it. OUr son has many doctors, and most of them have never met the father. The father doesn't understand all that goes into making medical decisions. He left a message on my machine saying all I do is sit around all day, and that I'm a waste case, even though he knows our son has seizures every single day, and takes eight medications twice a day. In the court papers, he even misspelled the name of the disease, completely. He admits physical custody should go to me, but believes at some point he should be allowed to have overnights. He doesn't understand, and I don't know how to explain, that our son's very medically fragile. Also, he knows nothing about the disease, and all he knows about it is what I tell him. What should I do? Someone suggested asking to bring in a medical professional, such as his pediatrician, to evaluate the situation, and give a report to the judge. How would this work? Also, I don't want to be arguing at my son's bedside over life and death decisions, and what if I can't get a hold of him? I have a domestic violence restraining order against him, and the third party, his dad, sometimes takes a week to call me back. What if I need to make a decision, but can't because I haven't heard from him?I would greatly appreciate any advice.
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