Industrialvomit
New Member
Hi, I'm going to make myself look like a jerk, but please finish reading before judging.
A long time ago I was tricked into getting pregnant to "keep me" from leaving (I'm bi polar), so I left anyways, I already had a baby and the father is/was a druggie/chronic liar with a serious criminal driving record. Anyways, I gave my son to his dad, and went on my merry way, I ended up getting married and now have another baby, making 3 all together. I don't want to have anything to do with the father, and I don't want to raise the boy, I owe money in child support, and there's probably a warrant out for my arrest now. My husband is also in the military. I had a plan, see I don't want to give my ex any money. It won't go for my son, my ex's mother takes care of him (he is very well taken care of and really happy) so I was putting it into a bank account, for when my son turned 18, then I'd give it to him and hope he'd understand why I did what I did, but since my husband is in the military, if he ever had a security clearance, I'd ruin it, and thus his career, and I don't want to do that. I need to know what options I have, I'm in Illinois and my ex is in wisconsin. I'd LOVE to terminate my rights and just be done with the whole thing (I was going to get an abortion but was threatened, I was 19 at the time, I'm now 25) I don't want custody even though I'm sure I could get it, but I don't want to pay my ex money to go buy pot with. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!
A long time ago I was tricked into getting pregnant to "keep me" from leaving (I'm bi polar), so I left anyways, I already had a baby and the father is/was a druggie/chronic liar with a serious criminal driving record. Anyways, I gave my son to his dad, and went on my merry way, I ended up getting married and now have another baby, making 3 all together. I don't want to have anything to do with the father, and I don't want to raise the boy, I owe money in child support, and there's probably a warrant out for my arrest now. My husband is also in the military. I had a plan, see I don't want to give my ex any money. It won't go for my son, my ex's mother takes care of him (he is very well taken care of and really happy) so I was putting it into a bank account, for when my son turned 18, then I'd give it to him and hope he'd understand why I did what I did, but since my husband is in the military, if he ever had a security clearance, I'd ruin it, and thus his career, and I don't want to do that. I need to know what options I have, I'm in Illinois and my ex is in wisconsin. I'd LOVE to terminate my rights and just be done with the whole thing (I was going to get an abortion but was threatened, I was 19 at the time, I'm now 25) I don't want custody even though I'm sure I could get it, but I don't want to pay my ex money to go buy pot with. PLEASE SOMEONE HELP!