I really don't know where to start. My wife and I have been together for 25 years. In November of 2005 we lost our 19yr old son to suicide. He was her only child. I have a son from my first marriage. Anyways she has just gone down hill since then. Since losing him I am no longer that important to her. We are fixing to have to file bankruptcy. We are losing everything. Drugs have taken her over and she refuses help. I cannot handle this anymore. My family lives in Oklahoma. My question for advise is, " I am considering putting my things in storage here and leaving for Okla. Inevitably we will divorce but should be go ahead with filing banckruptcy and then divorce or should I leave and then deal with this from there? Thanks