beccaann09
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My name is Rebecca and I'd like to tell you my story. When I was 13 I met a man by the name of Justin. I soon became infatuated with him because I thought he looked like my favorite actor. Don't ask me why because I can't see it in the pictures anymore. I was 13 and Justin was 23. As a 13 year old my hormones were raging. One thing led to another and we eventually ended up having sex. It wasn't forced and if anything I seduced him. It happened three times and it wasn't a month later that he was arrested. But he wasn't arrested for statutory rape. He was arrested for a parole violation and I was with him when it happened. The violation was being in possession of a firearm and it wasn't his fault. The gun was in his car because his dad's truck broke down and Justin went to go pick him up. His dad didn't want to leave the gun in the truck for fear that it would get stolen. When Justin dropped his dad off his dad forgot to take the gun out of the car. On his way to town that night his ex-girlfriend flagged him down and wanted to talk. She proceeded to tell him she was pregnant and when he refused to get back together with her, she got mad. When Justin picked me and another friend up I saw the gun in the car but I didn't think anything of it because around here it's not uncommon for people to have guns in their vehicles. We cruised around our tiny town for a while but it wasn't long before we got pulled over. We were asked to get out of the car and as we watched them search his car, I looked over and saw Justin's ex-girlfriend watching the entire thing go down. There is no doubt in my mind that she found out what was going on between Justin and I and she saw the gun in the car and she called the cops. Why else would she be there? As you can imagine Justin was handcuffed but he was not read his rights. We were all taken to the police station but I had to wait on my dad to come so they could question me. They didn't ask me any questions about the gun that I can remember. The only questions they asked me were about the relationship that Justin and I shared. I lied and told them that we were just friends hanging out. Justin went to prison and we carried on our relationship through letters and expensive phone conversations. After a year of this, DFS confiscated a letter that he sent to me expressing our relationship and that's when all hell broke loose. I was called in to the DFS office and question by a cop, Tim Davis and a social worker, Kelsey Findley. They wouldn't allow my mom into the room. They turned me against Justin by telling me that he had been having a relationship with my mom and telling me that they had letters to prove it. I was confused and mad at both my mom and at Justin. They had both betrayed me. I was so mad that I let it slip that Justin and I had sex before he went to prison. I was then sent to St. Joseph to do a written and video testimony so that I didn't have to go to court. I was also enrolled in unnecessary counseling. I regretted all of this almost immediately although I stayed mad for quite some time as it resulted in my parents getting divorced. Justin went to court and was sentenced to 7 years. He was not given time served. He's been in prison for 5 years now and has had 2 parole hearings. One of them was recently and he was denied an out date and given another parole hearing in February of 2013. In some cases murderers get less time. Our prisons are already full and it's crazy to keep him in there for another 3 years. He is not a dangerous man and he didn't force himself on me. The parole board told him that when he does get out he can't ever have any contact with me again. Well, I'm not mad at him anymore and I still consider him to be a good friend. Also, I am 18 years old (almost 19), and I think that I'm old enough to decide whether or not I want to be in contact with him. I have not been traumatized in any way and if I had been it would have been because of the way things were handled not because of the things that happened. I've moved on with my life. I now have a one year old son and I'm getting married in July. He's wasted 5 years of his life in prison for having CONSENSUAL sex with a minor. It's time to release him back into society and let him live his life.
My question is how can I help him? I am willing to do whatever it takes to right this wrong. If anybody out there can give me some advice, I would completely appreciate it.
My question is how can I help him? I am willing to do whatever it takes to right this wrong. If anybody out there can give me some advice, I would completely appreciate it.