Parents held accountable for teen sex?

[concernedparent]

09-01-2004 - 06:06 PM

I was devastated to find out that my just 16 yr. old has recently having sex with her soon-to-be 18 yr. old boyfriend. I haven't figured out what I want to do, but I want to cover all the bases and be knowledgeable if I do decide to take legal action. I doubt that I will, but just in case.

I feel completely betrayed because I have never allowed my daughter to be unsupervised with this boyfriend and to get permission to go to her boyfriend's house I talked to his parents and told them that they are NOT to be unsupervised, that they must be in the "family" rooms of the house (i.e. kitchen, living room) and absolutely not in the bedroom. They allowed them to go in the bedroom and KNEW they were having sex. Is this contributing to the delinquency of a minor or just inadequate supervision?

I am so sad.

 

[IGotNothing]

I wish I could help you, but all I can offer is my grief

 

[Michael Wechsler]

I would be concerned. Protecting yourself can always be done by sending written notice in a manner that can be confirmed (return receipt, courier, etc.) and in this instance it might be justified. If I were the parent I would notify the other parent and let them know that such an act is illegal and that you are outraged at being informed that, to your knowledget, this conduct was permitted and approved and that it cannot be permitted.

At this point I'm not sure I'd want my daughter in that house, especially given what you believe may have happened.

I'm very sorry to hear about what happened and wish you the best of luck with this matter and that your daughter is responsible and capable of progressive, mature conversation.

09-01-2004 - 06:06 PM

I was devastated to find out that my just 16 yr. old has recently having sex with her soon-to-be 18 yr. old boyfriend. I haven't figured out what I want to do, but I want to cover all the bases and be knowledgeable if I do decide to take legal action. I doubt that I will, but just in case.

I feel completely betrayed because I have never allowed my daughter to be unsupervised with this boyfriend and to get permission to go to her boyfriend's house I talked to his parents and told them that they are NOT to be unsupervised, that they must be in the "family" rooms of the house (i.e. kitchen, living room) and absolutely not in the bedroom. They allowed them to go in the bedroom and KNEW they were having sex. Is this contributing to the delinquency of a minor or just inadequate supervision?

I am so sad.