Child Abuse, Molestation, Porn Notifying public of your abuser?

[nfoAddict]

Jurisdiction

Arkansas

While a sibling and I were very, very young minors, a much older minor step-sibling molested us. perhaps hundreds of times for my sibling. Of course we're all adults now.

We have initiated a case against the step-sibling because we recently found out there is no stature of limitations and we've finally gotten to a point where we can openly talk about it.

My question is, can I (we) make it known to others, online, in public, that the step-sibling molested us?Of course the local media will cover it and it'll be widely known in that city, but can we openly talk about and, for example, mention is on every page on Facebook. Of course to further educate the public and ruin his life just as much as he ruined ours.

Is that acceptable behavior? Can anything legally come from it? This isn't something that we've just recently made up and decided to pursue. It is documented in documentation from our therapists going back 18 years. While that doesn't prove is happened of course (that's impossible because there are no other witnesses and no way in hell the step-sibling will admit to it), it shows we've sought treatment for it over many years.

Thoughts?

 

[justblue]

While a sibling and I were very, very young minors, a much older minor step-sibling molested us. perhaps hundreds of times for my sibling. Of course we're all adults now.

We have initiated a case against the step-sibling because we recently found out there is no stature of limitations and we've finally gotten to a point where we can openly talk about it.

My question is, can I (we) make it known to others, online, in public, that the step-sibling molested us?Of course the local media will cover it and it'll be widely known in that city, but can we openly talk about and, for example, mention is on every page on Facebook. Of course to further educate the public and ruin his life just as much as he ruined ours.

Is that acceptable behavior? Can anything legally come from it? This isn't something that we've just recently made up and decided to pursue. It is documented in documentation from our therapists going back 18 years. While that doesn't prove is happened of course (that's impossible because there are no other witnesses and no way in hell the step-sibling will admit to it), it shows we've sought treatment for it over many years.

Thoughts?

What kind of case...civil or criminal? How long ago did this happen?

 

[nfoAddict]

What kind of case...civil or criminal? How long ago did this happen?

A criminal case has begun. Still being investigated though. As long as they do their job, they'll clearly see it happened.

I'd rather not give too many details to prevent me being revealed in the future, etc. Obviously trying to protect myself and my sibling at this point. Therapy started once we were adults and records go back to 2000 if that helps. Again though, there is no statute of limitations on these crimes in my state. The investigator told me.

 

[mightymoose]

While there may not be a statute of limitations, the fact that the victims and suspect were all minors at the time is problematic.
Just how old was this older step-sibling at the time?
It is very possible his status as a juvenile offender will prohibit any meaningful action at this point.

 

[justblue]

A criminal case has begun. Still being investigated though. As long as they do their job, they'll clearly see it happened.

I'd rather not give too many details to prevent me being revealed in the future, etc. Obviously trying to protect myself and my sibling at this point. Therapy started once we were adults and records go back to 2000 if that helps. Again though, there is no statute of limitations on these crimes in my state. The investigator told me.

I strongly suggest you not jeopardize the criminal case by discussing it on social media...etc...

 

[nfoAddict]

While there may not be a statute of limitations, the fact that the victims and suspect were all minors at the time is problematic.
Just how old was this older step-sibling at the time?
It is very possible his status as a juvenile offender will prohibit any meaningful action at this point.

Investigator said since step-sibling was 10-16, he would likely be charged as a minor which wouldn't result in much, but he would be required to be register as a sex offender. If that's all that happens, that's fine. He absolutely deserves it.

 

[mightymoose]

My question is, can I (we) make it known to others, online, in public, that the step-sibling molested us?

That is probably not a good idea. You would be making harmful and unproven allegations. Don't do anything that wll complicate your ongoing investigation or make things more difficult for yourself unnecessarily.

 

[nfoAddict]

That is probably not a good idea. You would be making harmful and unproven allegations. Don't do anything that wll complicate your ongoing investigation or make things more difficult for yourself unnecessarily.

Forgive my ignorance of the law and all... Sure it's unproven at this point and in reality, it can never be proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that any of it happened. It just depends on which side the authorities believe. Without physical evidence, that's all there is.

Now up until about 7 years ago, there was a statute of limitations. Because I knew that back then, I never pursued it. But because of recent therapy between both my sibling and I, we felt the time was right to finally address it and make sure the offender is held accountable for their actions.

Sure they are harmful statements I make, and unproven. But it's our word versus theirs. Can there be any legal recourse for telling others or making it known to anyone that would listen? Because we were minors at the time, of course our names would never be mentioned so we have nothing to lose...we feel.

 

[army judge]

My question is, can I (we) make it known to others, online, in public, that the step-sibling molested us?

It is in the best interest of justice and the pending criminal case to do NOTHING until the case is resolved.

In fact, it might be better to do or say nothing publicly about this, even after the perpetrator has been tried and convicted or acquitted.

However, what you do is entirely up to you, and only YOU can decide what you do.

that said, you will shoulder the negative impact of each and everything you d, so deliberate deeply, tread carefully, and act prudently.

Of course to further educate the public and ruin his life just as much as he ruined ours.

Commenting publicly about some things can also ruin YOUR life, again, proceed with caution and prudence.

Is that acceptable behavior?

I wouldn't even consider it.

I would focus on my emotional, mental, and physical well being.

I wouldn't ever dignify the MONSTER that would carnally know his relatives by ever speaking his vile name.

Can anything legally come from it?

Many things could come from publicizing the name of this evil monster, listing them would serve no purpose.

You might consider that your comments, criticisms, publicizing his misdeeds could be seen to taint the jury pool, thereby causing his legal counsel to seek a mistrial, or many other legal remedies.

It could also allow the monster the opportunity to seek legal redress against you, which could end up with you having to pay him some of your lawfully and hard earned MONEY.

Be careful, and say or do nothing which could allow this savage beast to wriggle off the hook!

Thoughts?

You might also discuss your ideas with your therapist, counselor, psychologist, religious or spiritual counselor/adviser, or psychiatrist.

 

[mightymoose]

Investigator said since step-sibling was 10-16, he would likely be charged as a minor which wouldn't result in much, but he would be required to be register as a sex offender. If that's all that happens, that's fine. He absolutely deserves it.

Be prepared that despite the evidence he may not be charged at all.
Investigators and prosecutors may not give the evidence the same weight you do.
Since the suspect would apparently be in his 30's now there are jurisdiction issues to resolve as well.
You have a complicated mess. Don't count on a particular outcome. Just be honest and hope for the best.

 

[mightymoose]

Can there be any legal recourse for telling others or making it known to anyone that would listen?

Look in to the offenses of slander and libel. Doing what you propose could allow your abuser to sue you and win.

 

[army judge]

Can there be any legal recourse for telling others or making it known to anyone that would listen?

You could be sued by the monster for defamation and/or slander.

Until he is convicted of something, he is as innocent and pure in the eyes of the law as any other person without a felony conviction on his criminal record.

Because we were minors at the time, of course our names would never be mentioned so we have nothing to lose...we feel.

You may have been a minor then, but you are adults today.

Today you have assets, wages, possessions, and a life.

Don't risk that and allow the creature to harm you gain, today!

 

[justblue]

While there may not be a statute of limitations, the fact that the victims and suspect were all minors at the time is problematic.
Just how old was this older step-sibling at the time?
It is very possible his status as a juvenile offender will prohibit any meaningful action at this point.

He could be convicted and

Forgive my ignorance of the law and all... Sure it's unproven at this point and in reality, it can never be proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that any of it happened. It just depends on which side the authorities believe. Without physical evidence, that's all there is.

Now up until about 7 years ago, there was a statute of limitations. Because I knew that back then, I never pursued it. But because of recent therapy between both my sibling and I, we felt the time was right to finally address it and make sure the offender is held accountable for their actions.

Sure they are harmful statements I make, and unproven. But it's our word versus theirs. Can there be any legal recourse for telling others or making it known to anyone that would listen? Because we were minors at the time, of course our names would never be mentioned so we have nothing to lose...we feel.

Yeah...you do have a lot to lose. The criminal case. Your bank account and property. Seriously...call the Prosecutor and ask him/her what they think of your plan. Once this is over, and if he is convicted, you can shout it from the roof tops if you want...but don't screw up the criminal case by precipitously "alerting" the public.

 

[nfoAddict]

Be prepared that despite the evidence he may not be charged at all.
Investigators and prosecutors may not give the evidence the same weight you do.
Since the suspect would apparently be in his 30's now there are jurisdiction issues to resolve as well.
You have a complicated mess. Don't count on a particular outcome. Just be honest and hope for the best.

Unsure there would be jurisdiction issues. He still lives in the town where it occurred and my sibling and I moved elsewhere in the state and have had zero contact since shortly after it all occurred and our parents split.

The local authorities where he resides are investigating as I've already given my statement and my sibling will shortly. It just wouldn't make much sense for someone, actually two people, to go through years of therapy over this IF it indeed didn't happen.

The only problem I see though is, since the offender/monster/beast/whatever lives in the same town, the local authorities may see them as a good local and see my sibling and I as outsiders and thus give him the benefit of the doubt. But as you said, being honest is all I can do and hopefully he'll be held accountable for his actions.

 

[mightymoose]

The jurisdiction I am referring to is that between the juvenile and the adult criminal court, not location. Age is a significant factor that will complicate how this might proceed.

 

[zddoodah]

My question is, can I (we) make it known to others, online, in public, that the step-sibling molested us? . . . can we openly talk about and, for example, mention is on every page on Facebook.

Your post provides no reason to believe that you lack the ability to do these things. Is there some reason you thought you might not have this ability?

Is that acceptable behavior?

Acceptable to whom?

Can anything legally come from it?

In the abstract, virtually anything is possible.

 

[leslie82]

Forgive my ignorance of the law and all... Sure it's unproven at this point and in reality, it can never be proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that any of it happened. It just depends on which side the authorities believe. Without physical evidence, that's all there is.

Now up until about 7 years ago, there was a statute of limitations. Because I knew that back then, I never pursued it. But because of recent therapy between both my sibling and I, we felt the time was right to finally address it and make sure the offender is held accountable for their actions.

Sure they are harmful statements I make, and unproven. But it's our word versus theirs. Can there be any legal recourse for telling others or making it known to anyone that would listen? Because we were minors at the time, of course our names would never be mentioned so we have nothing to lose...we feel.

If there's a criminal case you need to stop talking about it on public forums. Anyone involved in the case could easily tie your comments back to you.

Yes there can be legal recourse for unproven statements if the accused wanted to file a suit for slander, libel or defamation if the comments met the threshold of those things.

I get that you're hurt and you want that person to pay but posting all that on the Internet will not make it right. It will hurt the criminal case and it just gives that person the ammo to make people think you're crazy. That's how sociopaths work.

I get wanting revenge. I was in an abusive relationship with a narcissist and I would love to see him pay for everything he's done to people and to hurt as much as he hurt people but it won't change anything or make it go away.

Keep going to therapy. Listen to the counselor and try to heal. Don't waste your time or life on this POS any longer. Let the courts handle it and don't let him control your life anymore.