Eviepuodiva0712
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- Jurisdiction
- Oregon
So let me just in advance sorry for the long post and thank you to anyone who has advice.
I have been receiving social security (ssi) since I was 18. I have never had a same sex relationship until I met another woman I liked in 2009 when I was 34. We were married in 2011. At the time gay marriage wasn't legal in my home state, so we traveled to visit my family in another where it was legal. While we were there we decided to get married.
after returning home we realized that our relationship was not as good as we thought. Probably because neither of us was gay prior to this. We had a lot of fighting and stuff. So in 2014 we broke up. We didn't get divorced because we were told when we married that we would have to return to the state we were married in to get divorced and we didn't have the money to travel there. Meanwhile, I am still receiving social security benefits.
after breaking up we took care of our own but my friend was nice enough to let me stay living with her. She had a daughter and I had 2 daughters. We kept everything separate. I didn't realize at any point that the federal side had recognized gay marriage so I didnt report the marriage. And we are still married to this day.
now we are being investigated by the us attorney's office. He got in touch with us today and started asking questions. He said they were going to peruse criminal charges.
so here is what I am wondering. Should I contact social security to explain my confusion? Now that I know I did something wrong I feel bad and want to fix it.
I am so scared. If I go to jail I lose my kids and if I permanently lose my benefits I will lose my kids because I can't take care of them. Will they take away my benefits forever? What can I do to fix this?
I have tried contacting lawyers that handle federal criminal defense. One charges $500/hour and wants a $5000 retainer and the other charges a flat rate of $100,000. I have been on social security all my adult life. I don't have this kind of money. I just don't see a way out except to lose my kids. Please help me.
I have been receiving social security (ssi) since I was 18. I have never had a same sex relationship until I met another woman I liked in 2009 when I was 34. We were married in 2011. At the time gay marriage wasn't legal in my home state, so we traveled to visit my family in another where it was legal. While we were there we decided to get married.
after returning home we realized that our relationship was not as good as we thought. Probably because neither of us was gay prior to this. We had a lot of fighting and stuff. So in 2014 we broke up. We didn't get divorced because we were told when we married that we would have to return to the state we were married in to get divorced and we didn't have the money to travel there. Meanwhile, I am still receiving social security benefits.
after breaking up we took care of our own but my friend was nice enough to let me stay living with her. She had a daughter and I had 2 daughters. We kept everything separate. I didn't realize at any point that the federal side had recognized gay marriage so I didnt report the marriage. And we are still married to this day.
now we are being investigated by the us attorney's office. He got in touch with us today and started asking questions. He said they were going to peruse criminal charges.
so here is what I am wondering. Should I contact social security to explain my confusion? Now that I know I did something wrong I feel bad and want to fix it.
I am so scared. If I go to jail I lose my kids and if I permanently lose my benefits I will lose my kids because I can't take care of them. Will they take away my benefits forever? What can I do to fix this?
I have tried contacting lawyers that handle federal criminal defense. One charges $500/hour and wants a $5000 retainer and the other charges a flat rate of $100,000. I have been on social security all my adult life. I don't have this kind of money. I just don't see a way out except to lose my kids. Please help me.