WorriedDad
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Hello, last night my ex wife was arrested and charged with 5 counts of Contributing to the delinquency of a minor. At her daughters thirteenth birthday party she gave her daughter and her daughters friends marijuana to smoke. While her daughter is not biologically mine, I raised her for eleven years until her mother took her from me out of spite, when I took her back to court to restrict her visitation with our son(because I knew that things like this happened on a regular basis) . My son was present at the party, he is ten years old. He was telling me how one of the other adults at the party was guarding the outside door, preventing him and the three other 8-10 yr olds present from going out back where the 13 yr olds were getting high, but that he could see what they were doing, and it was obviously no secret as to why they went outside. He went to tell his mother on his sister(cause he thought she didnt know, when in fact she was the supplier), but his mother, who was also drinking, and most likely high herself, claimed not to believe him...
While my ex keeps her daughter away from me, she does let her go to my ex girlfriends house on a regular basis. It is through her that I can still maintain something with "my daughter". We are both very concerned for her safety. Her mother both verbally, and physically abuses her on a regular basis, doesnt bother to get her to school half the time, and is just ruining an amazing little girl. "My daughter has scars, and scabs from where she has been "cutting", and has threatened suicide on more than one occassion. We have also seen the bruises and scrapes inflicted by her mother, and one evening while dropping off some homework at my ex wifes house, my ex girlfriend witnessed my ex wife chasing kiliegh around the yard cursing and hitting her.
Things like this have been going on for a very long time. Almost two years ago now, the children went to their teachers at school and told them about mommies drug use, and alcohol abuse by other family members in the home. And other horror stories involving intoxicated guardians. Child Protective Services was called, and they completed three seperate investigations. CPS is a joke, they could not drug test my ex, and they gave her two weeks notice before coming to inspect her home. Giving my ex plenty of time to "clean everything up". This was when my daughters mother took her away from me. She convinced her daughter that because of the things she said to the teachers, her mommy was going to jail, and her little brother(not my son) was going to go to an orphanage and we would never see her again. She effectively brainwashed her into believing that she was not on drugs, that the things she seen was just "flavored pipe tobacco" and that her daddy was just trying to have her mommy put in jail...I witnessed my eleven yr old little girl curled up in a ball on the floor in tears, as her mom verbally tore her to shreds on the phone. CPS was on their way to talk to her at my house, but her mother intercepted them, and drug her out of my house, right in front of a CPS agent, and took her home to prevent the CPS agent from speaking to her. Two weeks later when they finally got around to interviewing her at her mothers house, my ex had my daughter brainwashed...and my Ex got away with no charges, no nothing.(Though the resulting court battle resulted in her having very little visitation with our son. Every other weekend with no overnight stays.)
It just seems that nobody is doing their job, that house should have been raided long ago. Drug dogs would have grand ole time in that house. Cps and the school has done next to nothing to ensure the safety of these children. I am trying my best to not put my ex wife down to our son, but its almost like trying to make Hitler look good to a Jew.. He is devastated when his mother doesnt show up for her visitation, and when she does, she spends her time convincing him his sister is a liar, and his dad is just trying to keep him from her. He is ten yrs old and is handling none of this very well. This HAS TO STOP!! The damage done to these children...its breaking my heart..
I know this is long..but my questions are this.
1. Despite multiple CPS calls, meetings with school counselors, and police officers it has taken MONTHS(this last incident took place Oct30) for anyone to talk to these children, or arrest their mother. CPS only just spoke to my daughter last week, and nobody has interviewed my son! WHY!?
2. Is this normal procedure? My daughter could have been beaten to death, or killed herself by now! These children are enduring torture!
3. I'm a soldier deploying to Afganistan in March. I want to transfer my custodial rights to my mother while I am gone. Can my ex fight that?
4. Why, after all the reports was she not brought up on child endangerment charges also?
I'm losing my mind..any help would be appreciated.. I'm even thinking of hiring a private investigator.
While my ex keeps her daughter away from me, she does let her go to my ex girlfriends house on a regular basis. It is through her that I can still maintain something with "my daughter". We are both very concerned for her safety. Her mother both verbally, and physically abuses her on a regular basis, doesnt bother to get her to school half the time, and is just ruining an amazing little girl. "My daughter has scars, and scabs from where she has been "cutting", and has threatened suicide on more than one occassion. We have also seen the bruises and scrapes inflicted by her mother, and one evening while dropping off some homework at my ex wifes house, my ex girlfriend witnessed my ex wife chasing kiliegh around the yard cursing and hitting her.
Things like this have been going on for a very long time. Almost two years ago now, the children went to their teachers at school and told them about mommies drug use, and alcohol abuse by other family members in the home. And other horror stories involving intoxicated guardians. Child Protective Services was called, and they completed three seperate investigations. CPS is a joke, they could not drug test my ex, and they gave her two weeks notice before coming to inspect her home. Giving my ex plenty of time to "clean everything up". This was when my daughters mother took her away from me. She convinced her daughter that because of the things she said to the teachers, her mommy was going to jail, and her little brother(not my son) was going to go to an orphanage and we would never see her again. She effectively brainwashed her into believing that she was not on drugs, that the things she seen was just "flavored pipe tobacco" and that her daddy was just trying to have her mommy put in jail...I witnessed my eleven yr old little girl curled up in a ball on the floor in tears, as her mom verbally tore her to shreds on the phone. CPS was on their way to talk to her at my house, but her mother intercepted them, and drug her out of my house, right in front of a CPS agent, and took her home to prevent the CPS agent from speaking to her. Two weeks later when they finally got around to interviewing her at her mothers house, my ex had my daughter brainwashed...and my Ex got away with no charges, no nothing.(Though the resulting court battle resulted in her having very little visitation with our son. Every other weekend with no overnight stays.)
It just seems that nobody is doing their job, that house should have been raided long ago. Drug dogs would have grand ole time in that house. Cps and the school has done next to nothing to ensure the safety of these children. I am trying my best to not put my ex wife down to our son, but its almost like trying to make Hitler look good to a Jew.. He is devastated when his mother doesnt show up for her visitation, and when she does, she spends her time convincing him his sister is a liar, and his dad is just trying to keep him from her. He is ten yrs old and is handling none of this very well. This HAS TO STOP!! The damage done to these children...its breaking my heart..
I know this is long..but my questions are this.
1. Despite multiple CPS calls, meetings with school counselors, and police officers it has taken MONTHS(this last incident took place Oct30) for anyone to talk to these children, or arrest their mother. CPS only just spoke to my daughter last week, and nobody has interviewed my son! WHY!?
2. Is this normal procedure? My daughter could have been beaten to death, or killed herself by now! These children are enduring torture!
3. I'm a soldier deploying to Afganistan in March. I want to transfer my custodial rights to my mother while I am gone. Can my ex fight that?
4. Why, after all the reports was she not brought up on child endangerment charges also?
I'm losing my mind..any help would be appreciated.. I'm even thinking of hiring a private investigator.
