Don't know what to do

[Momma]

Jurisdiction

Missouri

My kids friend is 14 will be 15 in two months, he lives with his great grandmother she is constantly screaming at him because his 9 year old brother screams ,cusses and punches things if he doesn't get what he wants so the 14yr old can't go anywhere unless the brother wants to go, can the 14yr old move in with us legally? His great grandmother threatens him with juvenile an the boys ranch or says she's going to send dfs to his friends house every time he wants to do something without his little brother. He is being expected to grow up way to soon and just wants to be able to be a normal kid. What can I do?

 

[adjusterjack]

can the 14yr old move in with us legally?

NO, NO, NO.

Not only that, you would be a damned fool to get in the middle of anybody else's family issues. No good will ever come of it.

What can I do?

Nothing.

 

[ElleMD]

Unless you live there, you are only getting one side of this story, and a biased one at that. Regardless, you may not take someone else's child because you think you would be a better parent to that kid. Doubtless there is a parent out there somewhere who could provide more or who would be better in some way than you. Would you want them taking your kid? As the oldest in a big family, sure, it is a pain to have younger sibs hanging around, however, insisting upon including the younger brother is hardly child abuse. If you want to help, befriend the great grandmother and invite the boys to your house for a day. Maybe you could plan something special to keep the little one busy so big brother can have some time alone with his friend. If they are living with a great grandparent, odds are their lives have been fairly chaotic which could be playing a role in how they behave.