At this point, consulting a psychiatrist will help in diagnosing the issue.
A consult with a neurologist wouldn't be inappropriate given the circumstances which possibly contributed to his condition.
A case could be made, based upon your health histories, lack of family support nearby, for a compassionate probation transfer.
Don't start juggling too many initiatives, just add tis one to the list to be addressed in the future.
Probationers do sometimes receive compassionate, as well as, financial hardship reassignments to other states to be closer to extended support networks. Toward that end, start soliciting and collecting letters of "specific support efforts" from your family network. Eventually the matter will have to be heard before the sentencing judge.
I'm curious, so I'll ask.
Did your husband have a criminal record before he was convicted if these current charges?
If so, what charges, and when and where was he convicted?
How long had your husband been married to his former spouse?
What were the original charges?
What charges precisely did he plead to committing?
Bear with me, the answers aren't sought to embarrass, I have a couple ideas.
I need those answers first.
Your Honor,
I will address each of your questions in the order asked. Unfortunately, yes, my husband did have a criminal record - from Ohio - from his misspent youth. To give you an extremely brief overview of his past: He was a small town football phenom, who at the extreme young age of 12 had already been approached by The Ohio State University Team. Unfortunately, he suffered a career ending leg injury in the last game of the school season, when an opposing player took a misstep after the tackle and fell onto his left leg. It was only via a series of miracles that he retained his leg (would have been an above the knee amputation.) He was hospitalized for over 2 yrs with this injury, with numerous follow up surgeries (I believe the total of 17 in all.) As a result of this trauma, he became addicted to prescription pain killers very early in life. Despite all efforts put forth at rehab, eventually the prescription addiction slid into street drug addiction, which he fought over the next 20 yrs of his life. His criminal record stems from fraud he perpetrated to help support his habit. He had three "numbers" as he puts it, all for white collar type crimes.
In 1999, after backsliding for (what turned out to be the final time) again, his mother found him at the bottom of their basement stairs, having aspirated on his own vomit. He was clinically dead. A neighbor was a nurse and her husband an EMT, and thru their efforts, they were able to resuscitate him, however his heart stopped several times on the way to the hospital, but he was ultimately stabilized. Unfortunately, at that time, there was no brain activity. His mother had been given the unenviable decision to make regarding withdraw of life support. His mother, a deeply religious woman had great difficulty with this decision and put it off for as long as she could. Finally having made it, she called the hospital to let them know she was on the way in, and to notify the doctor that she had made her decision. The hospital - on a bad day - is NO MORE THAN 20 mins from her home. When she'd called the hospital she had been told there was no change in my husband's condition. By the time she walked into his room (no more than 30 mins from the time of her call) my husband was awake, aware - very foggy, but aware - and the physician was removing his breathing tube so that he could speak. I believe this was the final catalyst that convinced my husband to seek true help with his addiction.
By December of that year he was ensconced with the once great facility in Hungerford, TX, Straightway Training Center. He completed just over 2 yrs as a "student" there, before graduating and being asked to remain by the elders of the church. (The "church" withheld information that they had been provided that my husband had a job as youth leader waiting for him in Ohio with his mother's long time church. This was something that had been known for quite some time by the Hungerford church, as his going home to Ohio to be youth leader was, in part, a "repayment" for the Ohio church having foot the bill for his rehabilitation.) He became the Men's supervisor there, and was well received and looked up to (information I have gleaned from not only him, but others who had attended and/or graduated the program.) It was shortly after his graduation, and upon his agreement to remain and work for the church, that he was approached by the Elders who instructed him to choose from three eligible woman of the church to become his wife. (It was explained that the Elders had been "lead to believe" that he needed to be married to help keep him on the straight and narrow.) Of the three "candidates" two had 8 children each, and one had only 3. My husband, after much prayer and consideration, chose one of the ladies with 8 children, and began the required "biblical courtship" of the church. They were married 2/2/02, and the wife made her decision and walked out on or about 2/28/12. He never legally adopted any of the children, though he did his utmost to provide for them, moving them from a very old and fairly dilapidated double wide with single wide added trailer on the grounds of the "church" to a beautiful 4 bedroom two story in the greater Houston area. From the beginning the eldest daughter (18 at the time that my husband and his ex married) was a problem, which required church intervention on multiple occasions. This difficulty continued thru the entire marriage, despite multiple marriage counselors instruction to the ex that the relationship that she had with her eldest daughter was chronically and harmfully unnatural and that the ONLY way to have any hope for the marriage was for the ex to confront the daughter and establish boundaries. Despite multiple appointments made for the express purpose of this occurring, each time it came down to brass tacks, the ex buckled and refused to fulfill her duty.
As one would expect, this rift caused a great deal of tension and turmoil in the family overall, and especially when the next to oldest daughter came of age and began spending more and more time with her eldest sister, outside the supervision of the mother. At the age of 15, the 2nd oldest daughter was caught with pornographic "selfie" pictures of herself and a male engaging in oral copulation. My husband is the one who found this pictures on the daughters phone, and - in my opinion - as any concerned father would - confronted the daughter, wherein he learned that the pictures were taken on school property during school hours/functions. He went to the school to discuss options with the principal, as a result the daughter "suffered embarrassment." Things went from bad to worse with this scenario, and it was eventually determined that this daughter would go to live with the eldest daughter and her husband. Upon the 2nd daughter moving out, in front of the entire family, she vowed to "get even with and destroy his (my husband's) life, as he had done hers." (Again, something I heard from not only my husband but from this girls own brother.)
With this daughter no longer causing additional rifts in the household, things settled down (or so my husband thought) for a year or so. It was then that he learned that this daughter had gone to the "authorities" of the family church, making accusations that my husband had molested her. These "authorities" investigated the claims made and determined without any compunction that the daughter was lying. Unfortunately, all their "findings" were openly discussed in front of the daughter making the claims, and lets face it, kids today are WAY TOO astute and cunning. Once again things calmed down for several months, until 2/28/12, when my husband returned home from a doctor's appt to find the two youngest children sitting in the front room of the home with bags packed. When questioned why, they both became very emotional and explained that they had heard the mother and the eldest daughter saying some extremely bad things about "daddy", and that mom had called and told them to be ready with a bag packed as she was on the way to pick them up. I'll spare you the ensuing craziness (though you must know the mother never had any contact with my husband prior to her arrival with police escort), but the end result was that my husband ended up alone in the family home awaiting the arrival of the wife. He was at a complete loss, as, while the marriage wasn't "good", there hadn't been any one incident that would explain this seemingly sudden decision of the wife's.
Eventually he heard tires screeching in front of the home and wondered what was happening. He looked out the window in time to see the 3rd and 4th police car come to a screeching halt in front of the home and then the family van pull up behind them. When the knock came at the front door, he opened the door only to be faced with 4 officers, guns drawn but not pointed, with one being the lead, who indicate that they were there to speak to him, and asked that he step away from the door so that they could enter. My husband complied and took a seat on the couch. The officer's placed him in handcuff's "for his and their safety" and then the wife entered the home. The officer then began speaking with my husband explaining that the wife had come to the department claiming that he was "out of his head on drugs (medications only); that he was violent, that he had abused her and her children, and that she was afraid of him. She also had indicated that he was suicidal and that they would "probably have to take him down."" Within a very short time, the lead officer assessed the situation and between my husband's complete compliance and the wife's continued (after being admonished several times) harassment of him while allegedly collecting her things, the lead officer sent two of the officers back to patrol, and he and the remaining officer holstered their weapons. The officers ended up having to force the wife to leave with what she had, as she wouldn't stop verbally harassing my husband, and the officers removed the cuffs from my husband.
It wasn't until some weeks later that my husband learned that the wife had filed a CPS complaint on 2/9/12 claiming that he had molested her two youngest girls and had abused the youngest boy, claims that were ultimately deemed "unfounded" for the oldest girl and the boy, and "possible" for the youngest. It was from this "possible" that the original charges stemmed. When the youngest's story wasn't apparently "plausible" enough, the 2nd to oldest girl's original claims to the church were brought to bare, and linked to those claims of the youngest, ultimately leading to 8 first degree charges involving sexual contact with a child. The pictures that had been discovered on the 2nd eldest's phone were then introduced, but suddenly, the pics that she had admitted were her and her boyfriend at that time, were suddenly her and my husband and that he had "drugged" her. Something that I could honestly and without any doubt testify was NOT the case. The young man in the photos was long, thin and curved near the head, while my husband isn't as long, but extremely wide, and straight as an arrow. In fact, I believe that the fact that I told my husband's attorney that I would willingly and wholeheartedly testify to that in open court, was a big reason behind why after 2 yrs of preparation and only that morning refusing to budge off the only "plea" that had been offered, the DA suddenly agreed to dropping all sexual nuances to the charges, lowering the actual charge to "injury to a child/elderly"; no jail time, 10 yrs adjudicated probation, 100 hours of "disabled" community service and anger management classes.
Your honor, I am sure that you have heard pretty much everything in the book and probably some well outside of it. But I can easily and wholeheartedly tell you that I have absolutely no doubt whatsoever that all of these charges were COMPLETELY FABRICATED. As I'd indicated I've known my husband since we were 12 and 13 yrs old, and we dated on and off over the years (thru high school, then between our other marriages, etc.) Even at his "most insane" when using, this man has NEVER been anything but sweet, loving, compassionate, helpful, giving and considerate. Even when he was around his "druggie" friends, he was always the one making certain that certain lines were not crossed when in the presence of women and children. Even when he's been out of his head in the midst of a seizure, I've NEVER had the least inkling that he would - even unknowingly - cause me (or anyone for that matter) harm. Another point of order is the fact that due to the vast amount of medications that my husband has been on for years due to his overlying health issues, any form of sexual gratification has been out of the question for him, due to the side affects of the medications. In fact, when he and the ex went away for the weekend to celebrate their anniversary in late January 2012, he was forced to obtain a prescription for viagra in order to perform. A prescription that the ex, when she learned of it that weekend, flushed the remaining 3 pills down the hotel commode. So the claims of these young ladies simply do not stand against the facts that I have seen, and experienced.
