no it was a simplified divorce uncontested and, the problem I am running into is I am military and had a non-resident plate for Florida, now stationed in VA they won't let me register it without her signature, I don't want to sell it or trade it just want to register it
You can offer her $500, may be $1,000 to sign off the title.
She signs, you pay her.
She might not trust you, and you might have to hire a lawyer to act as a middle man.
If that doesn't work, and she won't respond, you'll have to discuss this with the lien holder.
I have seen lien holders allow such a change, if you offered to pay the entire loan off.
You can't force her to respond.
But, money offered to her might make decide to help you out.
She doesn't care, you do.
If she continues to ignore you, sorry to say, you're screwed.
Why?
Because if you don't make the payments, the military will jump all over your backside, and it'll mess up your credit.
You might want to speak with a lawyer (in the state you were divorced) and see if the divorce can be amended to address the car issue. That might be your bets shot. But, it'll cost about $500 to $1,000, maybe $1,500. Florida lawyers aren't cheap.