My (basically) wife and I have a relationship that allows romantic involvement with others. One of her partners has had a habit over the past eight months of getting obsessively attached, giving gifts (while being advised that spending so much money on a budding relationship was a good way to complicate it) and being generally emotionally manipulative. There were a couple of close calls in which the relationship nearly ended. Each of these times, this man responded in a massively emotional way, doing everything from threatening suicide to threatening to take away the gifts that he gave her. We, in hindsight mistakenly, opted to try and work things out. This final run, they'd agreed to take things very slowly. It's also been very gift heavy - trips to conventions and other places, taking her and our daughter to play areas for both parties' children to have fun for the day, even helping her buy birthday gifts for me and helping pay for a pet's medical care. Throughout, we told him he shouldn't be spending like this, and throughout he insisted that it made him happy to help, that he wanted this and that it wasn't an issue.
In the past week and a half, this relationship has ended because he pushed too hard and too fast. This man then spent four days sending me texts about how she'd used him et al, and after I blocked him, proceeded to confide in a friend that he intended to kill himself and me so my wife could feel what it was like to have no one. He and his now ex, once he was released from detainment, have since started badgering us nearly non stop, culminating in our having had the police intercede and advise them to stop contacting us. His ex even threatened to put in a domestic violence call using materials that were shared with this man about our sex life, which has a certain amount of violent play. It has come to our attention that he's threatening to take us to small claims court if we don't return every single thing that was given. He claims to have every receipt, and says that he will sue if we do not return these items.
My wife and I have complete records of all conversations with both of these people, including repeated assertions that these gifts were given to her (and me in the end) to keep, with no conditions attached. I also have records of the previously mentioned threats, the somewhat unsettling huge blocks of text - everything.
So my question is this - If he tries to take us to court, do we have a chance? Or does his possession of the receipts trump our record of everything said?
In the past week and a half, this relationship has ended because he pushed too hard and too fast. This man then spent four days sending me texts about how she'd used him et al, and after I blocked him, proceeded to confide in a friend that he intended to kill himself and me so my wife could feel what it was like to have no one. He and his now ex, once he was released from detainment, have since started badgering us nearly non stop, culminating in our having had the police intercede and advise them to stop contacting us. His ex even threatened to put in a domestic violence call using materials that were shared with this man about our sex life, which has a certain amount of violent play. It has come to our attention that he's threatening to take us to small claims court if we don't return every single thing that was given. He claims to have every receipt, and says that he will sue if we do not return these items.
My wife and I have complete records of all conversations with both of these people, including repeated assertions that these gifts were given to her (and me in the end) to keep, with no conditions attached. I also have records of the previously mentioned threats, the somewhat unsettling huge blocks of text - everything.
So my question is this - If he tries to take us to court, do we have a chance? Or does his possession of the receipts trump our record of everything said?
