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DO NOT PAY A CENT until the court orders you to do so. IF YOU MUST PAY, pay via the legal and designated office of child support in your local venue. Anything paid directly can be construed as a gift. (in some cases even with a memo stating "pay as child support")

I just wanted to point out that research states kids need to have both parents in the picture. The father barely sees the kid as it is now. Offer him the extra days and let them bond. I hope you can lighten up and remember this is in the best interest of your son. Arguing on divorce...

If you have a court order with custody rights, then you need to document your efforts. Here is an ironclad proof way: 1. Get to the area early and buy something with a credit/debit card (keep the receipt to show the time). 2. Report to the pickup spot. 3. If she is not there or won't hanf...

I second army judge's post. Stop taking legal advice from everyone, except your lawyer. Also, the longer you let the child stay with your wife or her mother, the longer the status quo build. The longer the ststus quo rans, the harder it will be for you to get custody.

OP, I am not a lawyer, but rather a father facing similar bad things being told to the kids at their mother's place. I highly recommend the book "Divorce Poison" by Warshak for you to read. Also, get his movie documentary aimed at kids called "Welcome back Pluto." This will help you cope...

+1 Call the local court and seeif they can refer you to legal aid or something similar. In the mean time, see if your local city offers free mediation. My county does it for free to unbourden the courts. They usually ask you the resson and send it to the other party. Inviting him to free...

If her current CPS case is related to drugs, they'll run a drug test. A report should also be filed for the father. In this cases, as hard as it can sound, you have to place the best interest of the child first. Are they safe with their parents? If no, call CPS. Worry about legality later...

Who is writting this? I get a feeling it may not be the father. If that's the case, the chances of faining custody over the child's pae wants is slim. What army judge is hinting at is that to unravel this mess, the father will have to take the mother back to court. Unfortunately, the bourden...

I'm sorry, I am not a lawyer. I am just a fellow parent learning about a very corrupt system. Unless the kid is in mortal danger, the op will find it hard to change a custody modification. It takes time, money, and a pretty darn good reason. I would go for the average minimum. When in doubt...

Sorry I came across as a jerk. Here is my main concern OP, divorces are expensive and fixing a mess such as a poorly drafted parenting plan is even more expensive. This assumes it is even possible to change. If you were to change your mind a day aftet the final court document is signed, you...

You are probably right. I hooe she realizes the mistake she is about to make. For divorce parents, you have to modify the age old phrase "you can't escape death and taxes" to include child support. Good luck op!

Wait. Custody is very hard to modify. I would not accept anything less than joint custody with as much time as you can get with the child. You are still going to be stuck paying child support, so don't dream about not paying even for a minute.

What is your current custody agreement? Do you have a court order preventing you access to the kids? Can you visit them at school? Perhaps you can rearrange your schedule to either have breakfast/lunch with the children at school and/or volunteer at school. This will give you several quality...

I totally understand. My youngest has ADHD, ODD, and Anxiety. Oldest has Autism. They don't need to be all grown up to talk back :(. As parents we do need guide them to make the right decissions. I aploud you for that. May I make a suggestion, you may be in the wrong forrum for your question...

FYI, the correct term is a person with Autism. Most persons in the ASD take offence when referred to as "Autistic." Parenting a child or person with Autism ia a hard task. The low attention span, forgetfulness, and lack of empathy are clear markers for some people with Autism. It really takes...