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Fallenangel5113

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I was wondering if what is happening is illegal. I left an abusive boyfriend recently. Hes been telling me if I dont quit posting quotes about abuse on Facebook hes going to expose and post my nudes on social media. I've asked him to remove the photos from his phone and,told him he doesn't have my permission to post them but Im still afraid he will if I dont listen to him. Hes caused physical harm to me while being 7 months pregnant, so now that I left him, I want a ppo against him, but due to the fact hes on probation if I get one hell go to jail, he told me if I did anything,that got him put in jail he would say I tried to break into his house(I used to live with him until recently) I used my key to open the door to get some stuff I forgot but it was chained still so I left. He said I left card marks and break in marks where I broke into the door even though ididnt. I had two people withme for protection, but I feel like they will say its a lie because he has "proof" even though I never did anything.. I dont have any proof that he caused the damage to blame it on me which I know he did... Im lost and scared ,I dont know what my rights are and how to stop this from happening. He still has control over me because of this.
 
You can and should file for an order of protection if you feel a person is a danger to you or your unborn child.

Your life and the life of your unborn child seem to be worth far more, than if a convicted felon gets his probation revoked.

However, that is a call you, and you alone must make.

Why not discuss this with your mother, father, a sibling, or someone you trust?

Frankly, you seem capable of making the right decision for yoruself and your baby (to be) without anyone's advice.

Women in your position can go to a battered women's shelter, to seek shelter, or just good, sound advice by women who have endured what you're facing.

There's no way to get him NOT to post anything, just as he can't get you to stop posting your opinion.

It seems to me that you should get the OOP, go as far away as you can, (or go to battered women's shelter), get your thoughts and life together, so you can deliver a happy, healthy baby.

That child will be your responsibility, because you know that deadbeat abuser isn't ever going to do what's right.
Besides, unmarried male shave no [parental rights, unless and until they go to court and establish paternity, and arrange for court ordered child support.

Two last thoughts: FORGET anything you left at his home. You can get more stuff, but you can't get your life back, or your baby's.

Don't worry about some pictures he posts. You can simply say if anyone asks, those aren't my pictures, I'd never do that. I think he photshopped them, because all I'd ever let him take is with me FULLY clothed.

Now you know the next time some guy asks you to pose nude, just laugh and say, "I don't do that."

Good luck.
 
Facebook seems to be catching up with Craigslist as a large source of problems for people.

Restrict your FB profile so that only friends can see it and then unfriend him if you haven't done so already.
 
I was wondering if what is happening is illegal. I left an abusive boyfriend recently. Hes been telling me if I dont quit posting quotes about abuse on Facebook hes going to expose and post my nudes on social media. I've asked him to remove the photos from his phone and,told him he doesn't have my permission to post them but Im still afraid he will if I dont listen to him. Hes caused physical harm to me while being 7 months pregnant, so now that I left him, I want a ppo against him, but due to the fact hes on probation if I get one hell go to jail, he told me if I did anything,that got him put in jail he would say I tried to break into his house(I used to live with him until recently) I used my key to open the door to get some stuff I forgot but it was chained still so I left. He said I left card marks and break in marks where I broke into the door even though ididnt. I had two people withme for protection, but I feel like they will say its a lie because he has "proof" even though I never did anything.. I dont have any proof that he caused the damage to blame it on me which I know he did... Im lost and scared ,I dont know what my rights are and how to stop this from happening. He still has control over me because of this.

Block him on your Facebook and any mutual friends who might tell him what you post. You can post whatever you want about the topic of abuse - he's not your boss.

If you want an order of protection you have to go to the courthouse and file it. Who cares if he goes to jail? That's not your problem it's his. He can make whatever threats he wants to and file any report he wants to about you breaking in. The cops would investigate it and if there wasn't any evidence, probably not pursue it further. Call his bluff. He's just a pos and a coward who wants to control you.

No he has NO control over you unless you let him control you. So stop letting him control you. I was in an abusive relationship. I don't know why I put up with that moron for so many years but I did because he's a master manipulator as most abusers are. The only way someone can control you is if you let them. So stop letting him THINK he has control. Block him on all social media and your phone. Let him make his empty threats. Get a protection order. Protect you and your child from his psycho ass.

On the nude photos - Michigan has a revenge porn law. Michigan's 'Revenge Porn' Law

"Now, under state law, revenge porn is a misdemeanor and a person convicted of this crime could be required to pay a fine of up to $1,000 and serve a jail sentence of up to 93 days. Subsequent conviction would result in jail time of up to one year." - So let him post those photos after you have asked him not to do it and he's going to get some more jail time.

Take your life back from him. He's nothing. He hates that you don't want him or need him so he's using this to control you so don't let him.

So this is what you do: Get a protection order against him for you and your child; block him on EVERYTHING and if he publishes those photos anywhere, report it. Don't engage him anymore. Don't talk to him. Don't let him get into your head.
 
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