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There was a guy that called me every so often for intercourse. He took some pictures of me during intercourse I told him I wasn't comfortable and he told me it was fine. I told him atleast don't put my face in those pictures. He said he wasn't. A few other times I sent him pictures. But none with my face in them. I never saw the pictures he took of me so I'm not sure if he really didn't put my face in it. Now I got a boyfriend and I told the guy I wasn't going to do anything with him anymore. He told me just send me one last picture and I refused. He kept bothering me. Then he stopped.

Its a month later and he started bugging me again. He moved to Oregon and claims to still have the pictures. He contacted me and told me to send him a picture. I told him no once again. He then started saying that if he were me he would send the pictures he is asking for whenever he wants them because he still has the other pictures of me and he is going to expose them on social media and show them to his friends. I don't know what to do. I have my family on Facebook, I'm in a relationship with someone and I had a baby. Both the guy and I were 19 when all this happened. What can I do?!

Please help!!
 
Not much you can do now, the cat was never in the bag, and someone left the barn door opened, allowing the cows to saunter away to parts unknown.
You should stop communicating with the blackmailing pervert immediately.

If the pervert does release the pictures take a cue from politicians, and deny, deny, deny.

The less you make of this sordid business, the less power you allow the pervert to hold over you.

In the future if anyone asks for pictures of you, politely refuse.
If the person persists, cut off all contact and ignore him or her.
 
I agree. Stop all communication. Do not respond to him.
The less he hears from you the sooner he will find someone else to bother.
 
Recently in the news a man was jailed for what is called "Revenge porn" you might look at this law and tell your former lover what could happen if he did this. In addition most social media sites do not permit nudes or porn so he would have difficult time keeping his account if he did as he threatens.
 
shrinkmaster said:
Recently in the news a man was jailed for what is called "Revenge porn" you might look at this law and tell your former lover what could happen if he did this. In addition most social media sites do not permit nudes or porn so he would have difficult time keeping his account if he did as he threatens.
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That was a California case regarding the owner of the website extorting money from people requesting photos be removed. The people who made the images available to the website did not commit any crime and were not involved.
 
This "may" apply

Some states are starting to criminalize revenge porn, or are using existing laws to prosecute people who commit revenge porn. For example, New Jersey's invasion of privacy law, enacted in 2003 (before revenge porn came to national attention), prohibits selling, providing, publishing, distributing, or otherwise disseminating nude or sexual photos of another person without that person's permission. This law has been considered a model by advocates of criminalizing revenge porn.

California lawmakers amended the state's disorderly conduct law in 2013 and 2014 to criminalize some forms of revenge porn. Under the new law, it is a crime to photograph or otherwise take private, nude photos of another person and distribute the photos in a way that is intended to and does cause emotional distress; and revenge porn is punished more severely if the victim is a minor or if the defendant has previously been convicted. The 2014 amendment corrected a serious limitation in the 2013 legislation: It covered only photos taken of another person (that is, not the distribution of "selfies"). The new law, set to take effect on July 1, 2015, includes the distribution of selfies as well as photots taken by someone else.

(Cal. Pen. Code, § 647; N.J. Stat. Ann. § 2C:14-9.)

Other Criminal Laws

In some states, it is a crime, often a kind of disorderly conduct, to take nude photos of people without their knowledge. However, while images that end up on revenge porn sites were almost certainly originally intended to be private, often the women themselves took photos and shared them willingly, or the partners took the photos with the women's permission.

For more information on the crime of disorderly conduct, see our article on Disorderly Conduct.

Harassment is also illegal and, in many states, a crime. However, harassment laws generally prohibit a course of conduct, not isolated incidents, so harassment laws do not apply in many revenge porn cases.

For more information on online harassment, see our article on Harassment and Cyberbullying and Avoiding Criminal Charges from Online Behavior.
 
Block him from FB and whatever other sites you use and set your privacy settings to not allow any pictures in which you are tagged to be published without your review. Chances are, this guy is blowing smoke. If he does send them to FB, report them and they will be removed. Stop talking to this guy. Change your number if need be or block it. Ignore texts, tweets, instagrams, IMs and calls.

In the future, should you wish to indulge in this sort of photography in a relationship, make sure you retain the copies on your secure camera/phone/computer.
 
Where I agree taking these types of pictures carries its risks its also not abnormal anymore. I think with advent of camera phones this became a normal thing in a relationship. I would advise before taking such pictures or video that the people involved have been seeing each other for quite a while and come to an agreement on their use and distribution. It may not stop an EX but it does protect all parties more.
 
disagreeable said:
The problem is she not only knew and approved, she contributed to the collection.
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As shrinkmaster pointed out, the law is changing. With the changes in California law it does not matter that she consented to the photos being taken. The crime is regarding the distribution. The problem here is that he moved to Oregon and is subject to the laws of that state if he distributes the pictures.
 
In many cases, the pictures are alleged to have been "destroyed" or to have somehow been "lost".
Sooner or later, the pictures appear on one or two sites, then like weeds they are everywhere.
The pictures are never tied to the alleged recipient, being they now appear to have arrived via Romania, Russia, China, India, even North Korea.
Unless you are what some call a celebrity or notable, not much can be done.
As Prude the Bear (Smokey's sister, and McGruff's girlfriend) would have said, "Only you can prevent some perv from exploiting your naked body."
 

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