Quinn Sjoblom
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- Montana
I'm actually happily married and not looking to divorce, but there's some things I need to consider as we move forward with our plans and I'm looking for advice. My family of 3, myself, my wife, and her daughter are renting for 800 a month currently. My mother also rents her own apartment for 825 per month. We are looking at the possibility of building a house for all of us to live in with a separate living space for my mom. I have a full time job, mother receives disability, and wife is currently not working. My mother was recently left a large amount of money and this is where our down payment for house is going to come from. In the long run, we all have a lot to gain by doing this. Lower monthly expenses vs renting 2 apartments as well as having a house to retire in.
I'm currently 33, house would be paid off at 54. Mother is 66 and healthy, so will probably live at least 20 years easily, maybe 30.
Like I mentioned, we are happily married, but I need to consider all possibilities. If my mom puts all her money into this house and I get divorced 5 or 10 years from now, we will be forced to sell house, or possibly even court rules that house goes to wife since she has daughter. I hate to think about a scenario like this and I doubt it would happen, but I can't gamble my mom's life on the success of my marriage.
What can I do in a situation like this to protect my mom from losing what she is putting into this house if I get divorced? Most likely I will be applying for construction loan individually because I have the best credit, but are there options for her to be part owner? Is there options for a post nuptial agreement with specific terms for the house in the case of divorce? I really don't even know what would be a fair outcome. I would think maybe in the case of divorce, house should be sold and mom gets her down payment back, any remaining equity is split between wife and i. I guess there could also be the condition that we all have the right to live in this house until it sells. Myself and mom in one living space, wife and her daughter in other living space.
I'm really not sure what the options are, just looking for advice on how I should handle this situation. I'm sure many would say if I have doubts about my marriage, then I shouldn't be married, but I'm just being realistic and thinking logically about a possible worse case scenario.
Any advice on how to approach this to ensure my mom doesn't lose what she's putting into this house?
I'm currently 33, house would be paid off at 54. Mother is 66 and healthy, so will probably live at least 20 years easily, maybe 30.
Like I mentioned, we are happily married, but I need to consider all possibilities. If my mom puts all her money into this house and I get divorced 5 or 10 years from now, we will be forced to sell house, or possibly even court rules that house goes to wife since she has daughter. I hate to think about a scenario like this and I doubt it would happen, but I can't gamble my mom's life on the success of my marriage.
What can I do in a situation like this to protect my mom from losing what she is putting into this house if I get divorced? Most likely I will be applying for construction loan individually because I have the best credit, but are there options for her to be part owner? Is there options for a post nuptial agreement with specific terms for the house in the case of divorce? I really don't even know what would be a fair outcome. I would think maybe in the case of divorce, house should be sold and mom gets her down payment back, any remaining equity is split between wife and i. I guess there could also be the condition that we all have the right to live in this house until it sells. Myself and mom in one living space, wife and her daughter in other living space.
I'm really not sure what the options are, just looking for advice on how I should handle this situation. I'm sure many would say if I have doubts about my marriage, then I shouldn't be married, but I'm just being realistic and thinking logically about a possible worse case scenario.
Any advice on how to approach this to ensure my mom doesn't lose what she's putting into this house?