The ex-wife creates situations of manipulation, mental games and uneasiness. My husband and I want to live a normal life with my step-daughter but the ex-wife won't seem to let that happen. I feel like the ex-wife uses my step-daughter as a manipulation tool, it causes problems, and we never seem to have peace. For instance, with clothes, the ex-wife demands the daughter to take off shoes or clothes that my husband and I buy for her and she can only wear the shoes or clothes the mother buys. Also, my husband and I feel like we can't get close to my step-daughter because the ex-wife tells her she can't, or she isn't allowed to tell us she loves us, she isn't allowed to call me stepmom, and so on. The ex-wife is always looking for things negative and even got a parent coordinator involved in the communication process with my husband. Before the parent coordinator, the ex-wife emailed my husband all the time which seemed to only create more problems. Is there anyway or any grounds to stop this behavior.