I am a divorced father of two boys (10 and 13) and I have been having nothing but problems since my ex moved back to town. When my boys are there it is a "free for all" - homework is not important, showers are not required, and whatever they do is "ok" with mom. I have accepted that there is nothing I can do with what happens at her house as long as it does not present direct harm to them; my problem is that both of my boys are getting behind in school work. I have talked to her and she is so buys with being the "friend" all of the time, she refuses to enforce the things that are important when they are there. I have full custody of the boys and I have agreed to let her have every other weekend and one day during the week. What I am seeing is that on her weekends no school work is getting done. Every Monday I find my self riding the kids to make up what they didn't do during the weekend at their mom's house. This is affecting their grades (especially my older boy)..I am getting beyond frustrated with this situation and I am thinking about taking her Sundays back now to ensure that homework gets done and we are not trying to cram all week between sports and schoolwork to catch up. When I threatened doing this, she stated that she was going to take me back to court and get visitation back from me.
I think I am justified in doing this...ultimatly, it is my boy's responsibility to take care of their business, but when they are in an environment where anything goes- they are taking advantage of this situation at the expense of their school and extra-cirricular activities.
My question is: Can I modify this visitation with a phone call or letter or am I going to have to go to court since I have agreed with her a visitation schedule?
I think I am justified in doing this...ultimatly, it is my boy's responsibility to take care of their business, but when they are in an environment where anything goes- they are taking advantage of this situation at the expense of their school and extra-cirricular activities.
My question is: Can I modify this visitation with a phone call or letter or am I going to have to go to court since I have agreed with her a visitation schedule?