fauciwatcher2
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- Jurisdiction
- Texas
I am engaged to a high profile doctor. He is extremely controlling and tech savvy. Because of child custody -- (I have a child 2 hours from his work and family) we live together but have apartments in 2 separate cities.
He has always mandated we share locations on our iphones and i've done it. But, he monitors me left and right when I am in my son's town or working. He asks me "why are you __ " "That took a long time at Starbucks, did you meet someone?". It's been bad. I've started going to therapy and suggested we stop sharing and he said no. He threatened to leave me if I insisted on that.
Recently he started mocking me for not paying my cable bill. (It's in my name and my name alone-- I pay all the bills etc). I asked how he would even know that? As it turns out, he made himself a primary on the spectrum cable app and was stalking who was logging on and off the wifi in my apartment.
It was honestly more of a freaky thing because I had nothing to hide, but he said there were other accounts. (He learned it was my neighbors because they were also on while HE IS HERE!) Ding ding ding.. clearly there are no people here.
Recently I asked for the same rights to his apartment and he said no. He was also installing cameras in the apartment to watch his adult children when they come to party (or so he says). But I saw that it was one and pointing at me in his apartment so I unplugged it.
He has been very clear that he will not allow me to have these rights in his apartment. So yesterday I called Spectrum and I recorded the call. They clearly stated that he set it up so that all info and IP address monitoring goes to his email and app. I removed him and he flipped out. He said I was "sick in the head" and that I clearly have something to hide. I said look -- if you won't let me do it to your apartment, you won't do it to mine. End of story.
He said in text "don't worry, i have my other ways to monitor you. My investigation just intensified".
Bottom line I am realizing I must leave him. And I am scared. In my state because of COVID my legal clients say it's pretty difficult to get a protective order.
I want this man to pay for this. I want him to face criminal charges for stalking me. I have the evidence and I want to be bold and show the police what he's capable of. BUT -- I need to know if i'm off my rocker and that they will roll their eyes at me?
He stalks me now and he also told me he had PIs on me. I told him that if that was the case he would not be saying these things because he would KNOW it wasn't true. I realize it's not illegal to have PIs on me -- but I am SICK of this. SO sick.
Should I seek a criminal lawyer first? I have a feeling the cops will just roll their eyes at me? I don't know. Any advice would be great.
He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but that he needs this tracking to verify he can trust me. We have been engaged 5 years.
He has always mandated we share locations on our iphones and i've done it. But, he monitors me left and right when I am in my son's town or working. He asks me "why are you __ " "That took a long time at Starbucks, did you meet someone?". It's been bad. I've started going to therapy and suggested we stop sharing and he said no. He threatened to leave me if I insisted on that.
Recently he started mocking me for not paying my cable bill. (It's in my name and my name alone-- I pay all the bills etc). I asked how he would even know that? As it turns out, he made himself a primary on the spectrum cable app and was stalking who was logging on and off the wifi in my apartment.
It was honestly more of a freaky thing because I had nothing to hide, but he said there were other accounts. (He learned it was my neighbors because they were also on while HE IS HERE!) Ding ding ding.. clearly there are no people here.
Recently I asked for the same rights to his apartment and he said no. He was also installing cameras in the apartment to watch his adult children when they come to party (or so he says). But I saw that it was one and pointing at me in his apartment so I unplugged it.
He has been very clear that he will not allow me to have these rights in his apartment. So yesterday I called Spectrum and I recorded the call. They clearly stated that he set it up so that all info and IP address monitoring goes to his email and app. I removed him and he flipped out. He said I was "sick in the head" and that I clearly have something to hide. I said look -- if you won't let me do it to your apartment, you won't do it to mine. End of story.
He said in text "don't worry, i have my other ways to monitor you. My investigation just intensified".
Bottom line I am realizing I must leave him. And I am scared. In my state because of COVID my legal clients say it's pretty difficult to get a protective order.
I want this man to pay for this. I want him to face criminal charges for stalking me. I have the evidence and I want to be bold and show the police what he's capable of. BUT -- I need to know if i'm off my rocker and that they will roll their eyes at me?
He stalks me now and he also told me he had PIs on me. I told him that if that was the case he would not be saying these things because he would KNOW it wasn't true. I realize it's not illegal to have PIs on me -- but I am SICK of this. SO sick.
Should I seek a criminal lawyer first? I have a feeling the cops will just roll their eyes at me? I don't know. Any advice would be great.
He says he loves me and wants to be with me, but that he needs this tracking to verify he can trust me. We have been engaged 5 years.
