Hello, I would really appreciate any advice on this issue I have at work.
I currently work for a well-known company -actually I worked for them until today. I resigned today because the District Manager wouldn't help with my transfer request.
Basically my current boss has been asking me out probably ever since I started working, but he always said it jokingly; matter of fact he says everything jokingly so most of the time ppl can't really tell whether he is serious or not; He has a lot of sex jokes that make me feel very uncomfortable, but everybody else usually laugh at them. I'm the one that's "too serious" according to all my coworkers but really, I've never worked with somebody like this before. However, about a month ago, he definitely went too far with me.
He followed me to my car and as I got inside, he jumped in on the passenger side and startled me. I was really in shock, so I finally told him yes we can go out to a restaurant but it had to be right at the moment; he wasn't ready so he asked me to text him my address later that night. I did agree, so that he could get off my car. To my huge surprise, about an hour and a half after, he texted me with an interrogation mark (?), he was waiting for me to send my address. I realized this guy was REALLY serious. I didn't sleep that night and that was the turning point for me. The next day I told him not to text me anymore otherwise I will call HR on him. And I said that in front of everybody because they KNOW what is going on. He got mad and told me he was joking with me- (I didn't buy it of course). I was in an abusive relationship before and feel like I have to defend myself now if I feel threatened like that, so I guess people may feel like I overreacted. This happened over a month ago. Since then we don't talk to each other at work and the situation is very tense. I just can't stand him anymore.
So last week I asked to transfer to this other location, and I really couldn't find anything else to say than the truth to this other manager. It really just came out. I told him my manager asked me out. I didn't go into details but he asked me to talk to HR, I said No way. But I would have never thought that he would take it to the district manager. So the following morning, the DM came to my work location and called me to the office; I was in shocked when he asked if it was true, so I first said no, and then I said yes. He got mad coz I lied in to him in the first place but really I didn't mean to throw the guy under the bus. I just wanted a transfer; he asked me to write a statement basically explaining what I just related earlier. I have the feeling that whatever I said was being recorded because he kept looking at his laptop the whole time. I did tell him, my manager stopped harassing me when I told him I was gonna call HR. He told me they will contact me to investigate this.
In the meantime I can't keep working at this location as I feel like everybody is against me, it's just very uncomfortable. I'm not sure what my manger told my co-workers but nobody is talking to me anymore and I explained all that to the DM.
I just wanna know if I could take this to court. I didn't mean to take it this far, but I sent my resignation letter to the regional manager, who then contacted the district manager who told me he can't transfer me because they told him I have lateness issues. According to them, I'm on conduct warning, which I was never told I was. And another lady at work (supervisor) also confirmed this with the District manager. But this same lady also witnessed when our manager asked me out. I said that to the DM and he then told me it's a different issue. He told me he contacted HR, but they didn't tell him to transfer me. I'm, thinking maybe I should have called myself..
I was late because I didn't feel like coming to work anymore with all that was going on. I lost all respect I had for my manager and we were always fighting anyway. That's why I couldn't take it anymore and asked for a transfer.
I'm really mad at my manager who dared to say anything to keep me from transferring! I wasn't even thinking about going to court, but I'm just really mad that the District manager chose to believe them, rather than me!
I currently work for a well-known company -actually I worked for them until today. I resigned today because the District Manager wouldn't help with my transfer request.
Basically my current boss has been asking me out probably ever since I started working, but he always said it jokingly; matter of fact he says everything jokingly so most of the time ppl can't really tell whether he is serious or not; He has a lot of sex jokes that make me feel very uncomfortable, but everybody else usually laugh at them. I'm the one that's "too serious" according to all my coworkers but really, I've never worked with somebody like this before. However, about a month ago, he definitely went too far with me.
He followed me to my car and as I got inside, he jumped in on the passenger side and startled me. I was really in shock, so I finally told him yes we can go out to a restaurant but it had to be right at the moment; he wasn't ready so he asked me to text him my address later that night. I did agree, so that he could get off my car. To my huge surprise, about an hour and a half after, he texted me with an interrogation mark (?), he was waiting for me to send my address. I realized this guy was REALLY serious. I didn't sleep that night and that was the turning point for me. The next day I told him not to text me anymore otherwise I will call HR on him. And I said that in front of everybody because they KNOW what is going on. He got mad and told me he was joking with me- (I didn't buy it of course). I was in an abusive relationship before and feel like I have to defend myself now if I feel threatened like that, so I guess people may feel like I overreacted. This happened over a month ago. Since then we don't talk to each other at work and the situation is very tense. I just can't stand him anymore.
So last week I asked to transfer to this other location, and I really couldn't find anything else to say than the truth to this other manager. It really just came out. I told him my manager asked me out. I didn't go into details but he asked me to talk to HR, I said No way. But I would have never thought that he would take it to the district manager. So the following morning, the DM came to my work location and called me to the office; I was in shocked when he asked if it was true, so I first said no, and then I said yes. He got mad coz I lied in to him in the first place but really I didn't mean to throw the guy under the bus. I just wanted a transfer; he asked me to write a statement basically explaining what I just related earlier. I have the feeling that whatever I said was being recorded because he kept looking at his laptop the whole time. I did tell him, my manager stopped harassing me when I told him I was gonna call HR. He told me they will contact me to investigate this.
In the meantime I can't keep working at this location as I feel like everybody is against me, it's just very uncomfortable. I'm not sure what my manger told my co-workers but nobody is talking to me anymore and I explained all that to the DM.
I just wanna know if I could take this to court. I didn't mean to take it this far, but I sent my resignation letter to the regional manager, who then contacted the district manager who told me he can't transfer me because they told him I have lateness issues. According to them, I'm on conduct warning, which I was never told I was. And another lady at work (supervisor) also confirmed this with the District manager. But this same lady also witnessed when our manager asked me out. I said that to the DM and he then told me it's a different issue. He told me he contacted HR, but they didn't tell him to transfer me. I'm, thinking maybe I should have called myself..
I was late because I didn't feel like coming to work anymore with all that was going on. I lost all respect I had for my manager and we were always fighting anyway. That's why I couldn't take it anymore and asked for a transfer.
I'm really mad at my manager who dared to say anything to keep me from transferring! I wasn't even thinking about going to court, but I'm just really mad that the District manager chose to believe them, rather than me!
