- Jurisdiction
- New York
Long story short, my female friend wants to file a restraining order against her ex girlfriend. (She was involved in a same sex relationship almost two years ago).
My friend, who has been living in NYC illegally for almost five years on an expired tourist visa feels that her ex is stalking her because she sees her at times at the same LGBT parties that are thrown, where everyone is invited. She has no solid proof of the stalking, since the ex doesn't contact her. Her only proof is that they run into the same bars and parties together at times.
Anyway, last weekend, my friend went to an LGBT party at a bar, and she saw her ex there. It was by coincidence, I believe. Long story short, for whatever reason, my friend told her ex that her friends (not me) are going to use violence on her if she doesn't stop running into her. Her ex got so upset that she threw my friend's phone on the floor and broke it. My friend got so angry that she immediately jumped at her and started to strangle the ex. The ex broke away by punching her in the face. Since my friend was bleeding as a result of the blow, she basically told everyone that the ex is crazy and as a result, will file a restraining order.
Here are the issues that I'm worried about: First, my friend is an illegal immigrant and second, New York state has anti strangulation laws that are considered a felony if I'm not mistaken. So the question is, does my friend have a case, or can her ex actually file a police report against her for strangulation? Is my friend justified for strangling her ex, because her ex broke her phone? Another datapoint: Her ex apologized a few hours later later, and even sent her a wire payment to pay for the damaged phone, which my friend accepted, but still wants to file a restraining order. Does she have a case?
Also, our other friends are telling her to go to the police precinct and commence the restraint order, but I think the police will go to the club and obtain footage that shows she started to strangle her ex.
My friend, who has been living in NYC illegally for almost five years on an expired tourist visa feels that her ex is stalking her because she sees her at times at the same LGBT parties that are thrown, where everyone is invited. She has no solid proof of the stalking, since the ex doesn't contact her. Her only proof is that they run into the same bars and parties together at times.
Anyway, last weekend, my friend went to an LGBT party at a bar, and she saw her ex there. It was by coincidence, I believe. Long story short, for whatever reason, my friend told her ex that her friends (not me) are going to use violence on her if she doesn't stop running into her. Her ex got so upset that she threw my friend's phone on the floor and broke it. My friend got so angry that she immediately jumped at her and started to strangle the ex. The ex broke away by punching her in the face. Since my friend was bleeding as a result of the blow, she basically told everyone that the ex is crazy and as a result, will file a restraining order.
Here are the issues that I'm worried about: First, my friend is an illegal immigrant and second, New York state has anti strangulation laws that are considered a felony if I'm not mistaken. So the question is, does my friend have a case, or can her ex actually file a police report against her for strangulation? Is my friend justified for strangling her ex, because her ex broke her phone? Another datapoint: Her ex apologized a few hours later later, and even sent her a wire payment to pay for the damaged phone, which my friend accepted, but still wants to file a restraining order. Does she have a case?
Also, our other friends are telling her to go to the police precinct and commence the restraint order, but I think the police will go to the club and obtain footage that shows she started to strangle her ex.