trailergirl
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- Pennsylvania
Hi, Any help or advise would be greatly appreciated. My son is now 12. I have primary custody, the father has partial. His father has been making things difficult at exchanges for years with various antics. Showing up with cameras, refusing to come to my home to pick up my son because he is 'afraid',showing up late etc etc. The custody order states that the parent who has custody time is to pick the child up at the other parents house and the other parent is to pick the child up at the other parents house when the visit has ended. My issue is this, first, my sons father has not shown up on any of his custody days with the exception of Christmas day for approximately 10 month. He will not communicate with me via telephone or text or email. In the previous year, when he was showing up on occasion, and sometimes actually speaking to me, he would state that he would not come to my home to pick up our son, but that I had to drive somewhere often times 30 minutes to meet because he was 'afraid' to come to my home. Reluctantly I did that for a period of time only because my son was anxious to see his father. Last night I came home to find my son on the telephone with his dad, my son called him and said he wanted to see him this weekend. At this point I'm not even sure whose weekend it officially is because he hasn't been around for so long. Because my son wants to see him I said it would be ok even though we already had plans. I told him he could pick him up after school at my home. He stated that he would need to bring a police escort because his is 'afraid'. In lieu of this and because I don't want my son to be exposed to these ridiculous antics I suggested that he pick him up directly from school. My question is this: I had already had plans for the weekend and have guests coming to my home the time I would have normally picked him up at the end of his visit is the time we had planned to have guests over. I told him via a text message that I would not be able to pick up my son and he would have to drop him off on this short notice or he could drop him off at school on Monday morning. I am already anticipating that I will get a phone call at the end of the visit from somewhere telling me to pick him, like a gas station 45 minutes away from my home in a dark and lonely parking lot the middle of dinner since the custody pick up time is 7PM. Do I have to pick him up or can I force him to drop it off since he has not shown up in 10 months and gave us no forewarning that he would suddenly reappear? And again I'm not even sure it is his weekend. He has been doing this kind of stuff to me for years making me drive everywhere and is abusive towards me which is on record with the courts (the abuse part). I can't afford an attorney to adjust the order which is now 12 years old. Any advise?