- Jurisdiction
- New York
I live in Saratoga county. I moved here with my family about 18 months ago.
In November 2021, I found that my wife was having an affair that I at first thought was just via text . I have since found out other, disturbing things that my wife has done. I now not only know to >95% certainty that she had sex with her affair partner – over a weekend in a cottage in Lake Luzerne and possibly at the affair partner's mother's house in Moriah on a different weekend. I have also discovered (my wife told me under some amount of pressure) that she had another affair partner, who is an ex-boyfriend. She claims that it was an emotional affair via text, but I have reason to be skeptical, as I know that she was close enough to him and spent enough time with him to procure cannabis from him and was also with him at a party.
I have found that in addition to the adultery, she also convinced me to move here to upstate NY from Massachusetts (which I consider to be my home and have somewhat of a support-system) under false pretenses. She told me that she wanted to be closer to family, but I have it in writing to a Facebook friend that she wanted to get closer to her romantic interest and then divorce me once here (none of which I had previously had any knowledge of). I suspect she also may have told the SPED director in my children's school district that I watch porn with my daughter, which led the SPED director to file a referral on me with CPS. That referral has been found to be unfounded. The affair partner – who for what it's worth is a NYS public employee – and who I believe she had physical relations with called me as well and falsely accused me of being a pedophile, so I have my suspicions that she told him as well. Again, CPS found the allegations to be unfounded.
The SPED director stated on a multi-person Zoom call that it was my wife who made the allegation. My wife (of course since she lies constantly) denies that.
My understanding is that since I have not been working until just recently – I now work part-time – and watching our children that a case could be made that she should pay me spousal maintenance in a divorce. Given all she has done to me, that is what I would want for starters. She has about $40,000 in a bank account that I don't have access to. It is the proceeds from an accident settlement.
I see all of this as being mentally abusive as well as detrimental to my mental and physical health and I need to leave here and go back to Mass as soon as possible as I now have concluded that the situation is untenable. We have two special-needs twin daughters born in 2014. I need some help and/or advice.
In November 2021, I found that my wife was having an affair that I at first thought was just via text . I have since found out other, disturbing things that my wife has done. I now not only know to >95% certainty that she had sex with her affair partner – over a weekend in a cottage in Lake Luzerne and possibly at the affair partner's mother's house in Moriah on a different weekend. I have also discovered (my wife told me under some amount of pressure) that she had another affair partner, who is an ex-boyfriend. She claims that it was an emotional affair via text, but I have reason to be skeptical, as I know that she was close enough to him and spent enough time with him to procure cannabis from him and was also with him at a party.
I have found that in addition to the adultery, she also convinced me to move here to upstate NY from Massachusetts (which I consider to be my home and have somewhat of a support-system) under false pretenses. She told me that she wanted to be closer to family, but I have it in writing to a Facebook friend that she wanted to get closer to her romantic interest and then divorce me once here (none of which I had previously had any knowledge of). I suspect she also may have told the SPED director in my children's school district that I watch porn with my daughter, which led the SPED director to file a referral on me with CPS. That referral has been found to be unfounded. The affair partner – who for what it's worth is a NYS public employee – and who I believe she had physical relations with called me as well and falsely accused me of being a pedophile, so I have my suspicions that she told him as well. Again, CPS found the allegations to be unfounded.
The SPED director stated on a multi-person Zoom call that it was my wife who made the allegation. My wife (of course since she lies constantly) denies that.
My understanding is that since I have not been working until just recently – I now work part-time – and watching our children that a case could be made that she should pay me spousal maintenance in a divorce. Given all she has done to me, that is what I would want for starters. She has about $40,000 in a bank account that I don't have access to. It is the proceeds from an accident settlement.
I see all of this as being mentally abusive as well as detrimental to my mental and physical health and I need to leave here and go back to Mass as soon as possible as I now have concluded that the situation is untenable. We have two special-needs twin daughters born in 2014. I need some help and/or advice.