Excluded as biological father

I got marry two years ago and ever since I met my "stepson" and his mom, I have doubdt about the paternity of my husband. My stepson is 7 yrs and lives in New York with his mother. He comes to visit us in Texas during the summer. I insisted to my husband that he should have the paternity test becaus I have doubts and before we try to get the custody of this child I needed to know that he was his son. Two days ago, he did the test and the result was that he was excluded as the biological father. My husband is very depress and confused and I would like to know how we can proceed with this legaly. I want to remove him from the birth certificate as the father, I want to stop paying alimony and I want to know if there is a way to held the mom responsable of fraud. She has 10 children and this is the second time that one of her kids has a paternity test and it excluded the father. The other child was 13 when she found out that her father was not her father (not my husband). I think that this is very cruel and a lot of people are suffering because o her lies. Thank you for you info and attention to this matter.

Mara

OH MY GOD!@! I can't believe you would do such a thing. FOR NOTHING!!!
No wonder your husband is depressed. How do you think his child will feel? Whose needs were you concerned about here?

Fortunately for his ex and his son, he is the legal father. It is HIGHLY unlikely that he will be able to terminate his parental rights after this length of time.

You have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHTS in this matter! You had no right to insist that he take a paternity test. You have no right to get his name off the birth certificate. You have no right to interfere in his business with his ex. You have no right to say anything about alimony and child support. And after everything you did, you have no right to call the child your stepson! And you certainly have no right to do anything to "proceed with this legaly". This is your husband's business, not yours. I am so totally shocked and saddened by your behavior.

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Just so you know, I am not in the habit of bashing posters or being mean. However, I am so appalled and offended by your post, that I can't even respond in a civil manner!

I am the one that love this kid!

I am really sorry that you are judging me without having the whole picture! I have a lot to do because I am the one that work at home. I am the one that send the check to pay the alimony because my husband do not work. I am the one that buy EVERYTHING for this kid: clothes, backpack, shoes, etc, I am the one that call the school to check how is he doing in school, I am the one that that take him to the medical appointments and dental appointments and also pay for them. I am the one that force him to read and sit with him during the whole summer to make homework and help him in summer school because his mom was so careless that he failed the grade and I was the one that was suppose to pay the $25,000 that the lawyer quote for go to court to try to get the custudy... I am the one that take him to church. I am the one that provide this kid with a stable enviroment. I love this child but I also have daughter of my own that have two years. My stepson's mom was already telling her friends that my husband was not the father... How much longer do you think it would take to him to find out the true? Maybe 13 years like the other daughter that I mentioned before and by then my daughter will be involved in the situation too. I did what I had to do to protect my daughter. I want to keep the relationtioship with him guess what, because I am his only hope so he do not end like his other sister and brother... selling drugs and having abortions at 14.Do not get me wrong. I was not the one that lied here!
M

irish223 said:

OH MY GOD!@! I can't believe you would do such a thing. FOR NOTHING!!!
No wonder your husband is depressed. How do you think his child will feel? Whose needs were you concerned about here?

Fortunately for his ex and his son, he is the legal father. It is HIGHLY unlikely that he will be able to terminate his parental rights after this length of time.

You have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHTS in this matter! You had no right to insist that he take a paternity test. You have no right to get his name off the birth certificate. You have no right to interfere in his business with his ex. You have no right to say anything about alimony and child support. And after everything you did, you have no right to call the child your stepson! And you certainly have no right to do anything to "proceed with this legaly". This is your husband's business, not yours. I am so totally shocked and saddened by your behavior.

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Irish thank you for saying what I was thinking. I would have posted but I was so overcome with emotion my post would likely been delted and me banned.

You cannot do anything at all since you are not the father. It is very likely that too much time has passed for your husband to dispute paternity anyways. You generally cannot wait 7 years to decide you do not want to be Dad.

Mara, no matter how much good you've done for the child in the past, you ruined it all when you forced your husband to take a paternity test. I can't think of any excuse for what you've done.

What about hearing your 7 year old stepson telling your two year old daughter how his mom has sex with his stepfather...after the stepfather sniffed a line of cocaine... there is a lot more to the story. And I am the one that has to explained to him why that is bad. And I can keep going on and on with the stories and situation that I had to dealed with in the last two years...I am a MD (doctor) I spend twelve years of my life busting my b___ to have a quality life and I have to spend half of my salary in allimony monthly!!! Because the court system is not that fear!! Even when I have prenuptial agreement, where not valid in the state. I was really pushed to the limit and I did not have other option as far as how to protect my daughter. No matter how hard I try or what I do I could not change this kid mind set. So why should I have to deal with this the rest of my life? Specially because his mom was the one that confesed and started to tell her friend (that are not that good friends because they let me know..) He would have find out any way so I did the right thing.

My husband is really greatful that he found out the truth and happy on the way we have handle the situation. The kid know the truth by us and is ensured that we love him agains how he would get the story from his mom!

irish223 said:

Mara, no matter how much good you've done for the child in the past, you ruined it all when you forced your husband to take a paternity test. I can't think of any excuse for what you've done.

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Mara

You need to realize that you have NO legal rights with any issue with this child. None.

YOU cannot get this childs name taken off the birth certificate and YOU cannot get the alimony payments stopped. YOU cannot sue the mother for fraud.

In the legal system you are a complete stranger. Try taking any of this to court and the judge will rip you a new one.

What you pushed your husband into doing is shameful. It's difficult to believe your vindictiveness.

Gail

That was the worst thing you ever could have done to husband much less to the boy who looked up to his daddy for 7yrs. knoe he probley won't have a dad to look up to because of what you have done!!!!! somethings are better left alone and in this case it should of been that way i agree it sounds like you where thnking of yourself and ur daughter not this child our your husband!!! My brother n his wife have a 15 yr.old son that everybody found out it was not his son but my brother was not going to put this boy through anything in his eyes it is his son!!!! we all know that when and if his son ever question's it when he is older thne he may be told but as far as my brother cared child support our not alimony our not he said if they ever divorced that boy would still be his son and always will be...YOU have hurt that kid more than anybody and your husband!!!!!!! It's sad you done this to this boy you may be the cause to push him into drugs ect. I am not a lawyer but very upset after reading what you have done. Ihope your really proud of youeself....

you were wrong not mom

Mara said:

I am really sorry that you are judging me without having the whole picture! I have a lot to do because I am the one that work at home. I am the one that send the check to pay the alimony because my husband do not work. I am the one that buy EVERYTHING for this kid: clothes, backpack, shoes, etc, I am the one that call the school to check how is he doing in school, I am the one that that take him to the medical appointments and dental appointments and also pay for them. I am the one that force him to read and sit with him during the whole summer to make homework and help him in summer school because his mom was so careless that he failed the grade and I was the one that was suppose to pay the $25,000 that the lawyer quote for go to court to try to get the custudy... I am the one that take him to church. I am the one that provide this kid with a stable enviroment. I love this child but I also have daughter of my own that have two years. My stepson's mom was already telling her friends that my husband was not the father... How much longer do you think it would take to him to find out the true? Maybe 13 years like the other daughter that I mentioned before and by then my daughter will be involved in the situation too. I did what I had to do to protect my daughter. I want to keep the relationtioship with him guess what, because I am his only hope so he do not end like his other sister and brother... selling drugs and having abortions at 14.Do not get me wrong. I was not the one that lied here!
M

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no, you didnt lie, you just stuck your damm nose where it didnt belong. if i was the mother, id make sure you never saw the child again. you owe both mom and dad an apology. what part of you should have minded your own business dont you get?:no: