false/false police report

My ex violated the NCO last year...I called the cops...he cried...knowing he would go back to prison...and, I, the wonderful "victim" of his DV that I was, chose to tell the officer that I lied about the ex's presence...now I am in trouble for making a false police report to save his butt...to the tune of 1 year bench probation and $500 in court fees...I am a single, hardworking mom of 5...the youngest is 2 years old and the son of above mentioned ex...I am having difficulties coming up with $50 per month to pay the court fees...I have never been in any kind of legal troubles...not even as much as a traffic ticket...so this really has me stressed out...I have to see the judge soon (for non-payment) and I really need to know the best way to explain my circumstances to her...I have the ability to catch up on the last 3 payments before I stand in front of her...tell me if there is something I can do or say to ease my and society's mind. thank you

First of all, you can't legaly keep punishing the perv. You got your order. Enough said there.

As far as a violation, you should have moved when you filed.

AS far as the rest, if you violated a law, or an order, you go to court without clean hands. Hands down, you should lose. Only incopetence on the other side will save you now.

harsh, but true

Scooterdog said:

First of all, you can't legaly keep punishing the perv. You got your order. Enough said there.

As far as a violation, you should have moved when you filed.

AS far as the rest, if you violated a law, or an order, you go to court without clean hands. Hands down, you should lose. Only incopetence on the other side will save you now.

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harsh...but true...I understand that...what I need to know are the details...advice...rather than your personal opinion...I need to know the best, quickest way to get this situation off my shoulders so I can focus on my goals and children...I have no desire to rehash the details of the situation...just understand life is not always "black and white" and the "system" is not always justified and logical...humans have flaws...the system has flaws...where's my forgiveness? not looking to punish anyone...this is a bad joke that is haunting me...

You could come clean to the court and tell them what you did but then you woiuld still be in trouble either way cause you lied twice so to speak. Try and renegotiate the payment terms and tell them the financial burden you are under...bring proof. Do catch up before you see the judge though and see if you can pay $25 a month.

calalilly

thank you for your advice...I will take proof of income and out-going bills to show that my intentions of settling this debt are good...I just don't even have 2 pennies to rub right now...It's a tangled web we weave, sometimes...I notice this situation has enticed people to view my story...but I gotta tell ya...it's one thing to lie to the cops and not get caught...or eventually get caught (because it was truely a lie) and it's another to fabricate a lie and suffer the consequences as a truely innocent being trying to protect a felon from further punishment for some compassionate reason (martyrdom/dumb)...the system is flawed in a big way when it comes to these situations!!! How about, I let you all know what the "verdict" is later this week...and we can all chat about the nuances of "black&white"/"right&wrong"...who's a decent person and who is beyond help?! My victim's advocate is a dear friend and confidant to me...I gotta tell ya, she is proud of me and yet, I still feel I let myself down here...what a nightmare! ~~Words of wisdom and compassion welcome here~~
"If we focus on the negative we forget we are knee deep in abundance"~ indie~

the jist of things...

saw the judge today....she appointed me an attorney and set the date for may 13...not sure why...maybe she wants to hear more on this issue...she seemed to be very hard on everyone today....so, I guess this is "goodbye" for now...my lawyer should have no problem handling this case. my lesson for you all out there is, don't lie to the law to save someone elses arse...no matter how wonderful they are or how many tears they shed...I'm paying for a choice based on emotions rather than logic and now I'm the only one that suffers from the anxiety of the situation...remember, "God never gives you more than you can handle"...so stop adding to the "pile" He's already given us to work with and through.