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Hello to everyone here that taps into this thread and decides to have a read! My name is Michael, I'm 32 and I'm currently pursuing my Bachelor's in Nursing & I'm on my way to get my APRN. Figured I'd start with a small bit about myself before throwing the whole kitchen sink out there and break the ice. So, what I have going on is what some would say is "common" or "normal" with divorce. Although I am not the one going through the divorce I am the significant other to the woman that is. We have been together for some time now and her ex just continues to drag out their divorce because it is the only way he can still maintain control over her and how she decides to live her life. They have 2 children together that she gained temporary custody over and he is allowed unsupervised visitation when he is in the state and is allowed unsupervised phone calls with the two children as well. *PROBLEM* The reason their marriage fell apart is due to his lack of support, his abuse in the form of spiritual, mental, and physical, and his addiction to pornography. But wait, there's more! They were a Jehovah's Witness family until mom decided she was tired of the abuse and raising little robots that are convinced Armageddon is tomorrow, don't associate with anyone non-Jehovah's witness, shun the world, reject the country and the constitution, avoid police and anyone outside of the congregation, and refuse medical attention needed to save your life if need be. She had dealt with this for 12 years with this monster and finally wants her girls to live and thrive. She made her decision's before I even came into the picture. now fast forward 9 months to now. We've had court and have gone back and fourth attorney-to-attorney & it seems we're getting no place.. The last hearing granted mom temporary full-custody but his attorney had a morality law put in place so I can no longer be home when they are asleep which is slowly tearing us apart. It conflicts the girls, it's not fair to them or mom. if it's in the best interest of them then why am I being torn out of their life? I've been their financial and emotional support and we've started a great foundation but this "ex" of hers has chosen to not be apart of their life unless its the bare minimum which legally allows him to maintain some form of control just to make them miserable. What can we do? is their anyway we can seek stronger council that will aim to make this man and his dirt and true ways a point in front of the judge? He hasn't even fought for custody and has made it clear he isn't going to relocate closer to his kids to be a part of their life, but when he has visitation he's going to force Jehovah's witness rhetoric on them which is going to conflict them. They're in girl scouts, have friends and family that actually care about them, and make A's in school but as soon as he enters the picture the horrible tantrums, morbid thoughts, and anger arise from them. We need strong council. And we don't know what to do.