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ndearing7

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I have 2 boys and their dad and I already have court ordered custody arrangements. We both have them 50/50 alternating weeks starting on Sunday. There is $0 ongoing child support on either side. I lost my apt 2 yrs ago and to prevent my kids from being on the streets or house to house with zero stability I had them stay with their dad until I was able to get on my feet. Their dad has only let me see them maybe a total of 3 weeks time over 2 years. I ask all the time to let me spend time with them only to be told No or he will be like "well if you did this then you can see them" which turns into "well now you have to do that and then you can see them." He didn't let me see them on any holidays no nothing! I've never had my rights taken away, im a damn good mom and he knows it. His reasoning for keeping me from my children is out of REVENGE for moving to Texas with them about 5 years ago. He has no right to tell me I can't see my kids hell he's not even the primary custodial parent, I am!! My boys informed me that they had their phones taken away this past week all bc they talked to me and my youngest said that when he said out loud that he loves me his dad yelled at him. That's abuse in my opinion. I need to know what actions to take to get my visitation the way it's supposed to be and him be held in contempt of court maybe even me have full custody due to the emotional abuse and brainwashing he's doing to my boys. Any help is appreciated!

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If a custody and or visitation order is being violated you have to request a court hearing on the matter, the judge decides a remedy.


I suggest you speak with a lawyer tomorrow and get the ball rolling.
 
Your solution is at courthouse not a website. Other parent has violated a court order nothing can be done until you have courts address this.
 
I have 2 boys and their dad and I already have court ordered custody arrangements. We both have them 50/50 alternating weeks starting on Sunday. There is $0 ongoing child support on either side. I lost my apt 2 yrs ago and to prevent my kids from being on the streets or house to house with zero stability I had them stay with their dad until I was able to get on my feet. Their dad has only let me see them maybe a total of 3 weeks time over 2 years. I ask all the time to let me spend time with them only to be told No or he will be like "well if you did this then you can see them" which turns into "well now you have to do that and then you can see them." He didn't let me see them on any holidays no nothing! I've never had my rights taken away, im a damn good mom and he knows it. His reasoning for keeping me from my children is out of REVENGE for moving to Texas with them about 5 years ago. He has no right to tell me I can't see my kids hell he's not even the primary custodial parent, I am!! My boys informed me that they had their phones taken away this past week all bc they talked to me and my youngest said that when he said out loud that he loves me his dad yelled at him. That's abuse in my opinion. I need to know what actions to take to get my visitation the way it's supposed to be and him be held in contempt of court maybe even me have full custody due to the emotional abuse and brainwashing he's doing to my boys. Any help is appreciated!

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What does the custody order say? If he's violating it you have to take him to court or it won't get fixed.
 
You both have to follow the order as it exists now, or go to court to have it modified. If you moved out of state with the children, it is unclear how you could have had alternating weeks of custody. I can't imagine why you have let 2 years pass without doing anything about this. Even if you temporarily did not want the children with you overnight until you were in stable housing, you certainly should have been visiting them.

Are you in stable housing now? If the order had both of you alternating weeks, you aren't the primary custodial parent. It is not abuse to yell at them or take their phones. Your absence alienates your children. Does your order indicate how often the children should have phone contact with the non-custodial parent? If not, when you go back to court, ask for that to be included.
 
You both have to follow the order as it exists now, or go to court to have it modified. If you moved out of state with the children, it is unclear how you could have had alternating weeks of custody. I can't imagine why you have let 2 years pass without doing anything about this. Even if you temporarily did not want the children with you overnight until you were in stable housing, you certainly should have been visiting them.

Are you in stable housing now? If the order had both of you alternating weeks, you aren't the primary custodial parent. It is not abuse to yell at them or take their phones. Your absence alienates your children. Does your order indicate how often the children should have phone contact with the non-custodial parent? If not, when you go back to court, ask for that to be included.
It might not be abuse to yell or take their phones away, however when it is done solely because of the fact they talked to their mother/said they love their mother it is! It's making them feel as if they're wrong for simply wanting me in their lives. I didn't move out of state, what I said was me and the boys had moved to Texas about 5 years ago leaving their dad here in AZ and he was absent for 3 years. Our custody agreement was made after he had moved to Texas and then we all ended up moving back to AZ. So that is how we alternated weeks. As far as your assumption on whether or not I visited them or whatever the last 2 years, I did as often as I was able to, most of the time their dad would tell me no I wasn't welcomed at his house.

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It might not be abuse to yell or take their phones away, however when it is done solely because of the fact they talked to their mother/said they love their mother it is! It's making them feel as if they're wrong for simply wanting me in their lives. I didn't move out of state, what I said was me and the boys had moved to Texas about 5 years ago leaving their dad here in AZ and he was absent for 3 years. Our custody agreement was made after he had moved to Texas and then we all ended up moving back to AZ. So that is how we alternated weeks. As far as your assumption on whether or not I visited them or whatever the last 2 years, I did as often as I was able to, most of the time their dad would tell me no I wasn't welcomed at his house.

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So why didn't you take him to court sooner?
 
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