glenelkins
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- United Kingdom
Hello
I am having a stressful time with my daughter's mother's mother (grandmother). She is involved in my daughter's life quite a lot, which is no problem, she likes to take her on holidays and take her to activities etc.
What is starting to frustrate me is that grandma thinks she has the right to book holidays without first getting permission from both parents, and not even discussing it with me.
Today I told her that if she books something else during the time/days that i have my daughter without getting my consent then it will not happen. I run 3 businesses and support 3 children, I don't have the time or the money to run around all day and spend money on loads of activities. 1 or 2 a week is fine, but it's getting way out of hand.
He grandma offers to take her for me, the thing is that in my time nothing should be happening unless I agree to it, correct? But I end up looking like the bad guy if i say no because it's not convenient giving me 1 or 2 days notice when they know fine well I am busy.
I do know to take my daughter out of the country without both parent's giving consent is illegal, so have warned them not to do that.
It gets worse, I receive the child tax credits because I proved that my daughter is with me 80% of the time, or more, because her mother palms her off. Recently my daughter has been staying at her grandmas for weeks on end, without seeing her mum very much, and grandma lives a good hour drive from the school...how is that logical, or good for her?
I used to give my ex half the tax credits each week as to be "fair", but since she has had her less and less (roughly 70 nights last year out of 365) I am now refusing to give her it on the grounds that she never looks after our daughter. I assume I am also legally entitled to do that?
Please can I have some advice on the best way to deal with this, they are interfering in my time with my daughter when I could make plans to do something without discussing it with me first.
Thanks
Glen
I am having a stressful time with my daughter's mother's mother (grandmother). She is involved in my daughter's life quite a lot, which is no problem, she likes to take her on holidays and take her to activities etc.
What is starting to frustrate me is that grandma thinks she has the right to book holidays without first getting permission from both parents, and not even discussing it with me.
Today I told her that if she books something else during the time/days that i have my daughter without getting my consent then it will not happen. I run 3 businesses and support 3 children, I don't have the time or the money to run around all day and spend money on loads of activities. 1 or 2 a week is fine, but it's getting way out of hand.
He grandma offers to take her for me, the thing is that in my time nothing should be happening unless I agree to it, correct? But I end up looking like the bad guy if i say no because it's not convenient giving me 1 or 2 days notice when they know fine well I am busy.
I do know to take my daughter out of the country without both parent's giving consent is illegal, so have warned them not to do that.
It gets worse, I receive the child tax credits because I proved that my daughter is with me 80% of the time, or more, because her mother palms her off. Recently my daughter has been staying at her grandmas for weeks on end, without seeing her mum very much, and grandma lives a good hour drive from the school...how is that logical, or good for her?
I used to give my ex half the tax credits each week as to be "fair", but since she has had her less and less (roughly 70 nights last year out of 365) I am now refusing to give her it on the grounds that she never looks after our daughter. I assume I am also legally entitled to do that?
Please can I have some advice on the best way to deal with this, they are interfering in my time with my daughter when I could make plans to do something without discussing it with me first.
Thanks
Glen
