Dad and Jane kept their finances separate. His name is not on her vehicle, and her name is not on his. Yes, I have seen the title.
similarly, my name is not on my husbands car and his is not on mine. Once he asked me to go to the courthouse and renew his tag for him, they would not allow me to...
Also, John took and disposed of the vehicle my father left Jane, without contacting the executor for permission. I don’t think he could have sold it; he could not have gotten a bill of sale because Jane’s name isn’t on it. Just as my taking Dad’s jewelry box before distribution would have been...
While we cannot establish ownership of all of his things, John and Tom admitted Dad’s ownership of at least some of the things they took or destroyed. Maybe restitution is not possible, but isn’t it at minimum petty theft?
Ok, one more question before I go forth and live my life.
My sister is executor of my Dad’s will. Because we could not access my father’s personal effects from the widow’s private property, an estate distribution could not be performed. The estate is still open.
When I stayed with Jane after...
With the items destroyed anyway, I guess the only possible path is to get on with my life.
I don’t think it’s reimbursement that I wanted. I think I wanted revenge in any possible manner. An arrest would have been ideal, even if charges didn’t stick. I’m joking. Sort of.
Thank you for your...
Thank you. This is horrible news, but I thank you for informing me. I had completely forgotten about the other thread. I was surprised that I had already gone through the situation when we first learned about the nursing home and the dead dogs. This has been so traumatic to me that this new...
Is it a crime to refuse heirs access to their bequest? Is it a crime to keep or destroy items, rather than give them to the heirs? Is it a crime to kill pets rather than offer them to the owner’s family? I am back again to ask advice for a new but related situation to my post from 12/2019...
You’re right. I hoped it would be different, but clearly it’s not. We have to go to him and hope he gives us access. And we also have to expect that quite possibly, all of Dad’s things are indeed gone.
Legally, he could keep us from seeing Dad’s widow as well, couldn’t he? This makes me sick.
Dad’s items are only sentimental, not valuable otherwise.
The widow is not mentally competent to give us access. Plus, we don’t want her to know. That’s why we waited. It would upset her. Often, she doesn’t remember Dad died, and she doesn’t realize that she is actually living in the facility...
You are right. He could not have done this without power of attorney. All actions will have to pass through him.
My father passed in 2019. I have an email exchange with her accountant (a friend of both hers and my dad’s, and a liaison with the brother), explaining that we would wait to collect...
Army Judge, I appreciate your kindness. I am sorry that this brutal disease impacted your family, too. Your memories sound lovely. Sadly, your description reminded me much of my own memories at their house. Every day except in the coldest of winters, they would have a cocktail on the back deck...
Asking him for access is what we had always expected to do, and we did not previously anticipate problems. After this, ugh. I don’t know what to do. He clearly has a problem with us (probably because I objected to his attempts to put her in a home just two weeks after Dad died. That was too...
Hi AdjusterJack,
I am glad to have your input because, although you wouldn’t remember it, you have helped me here at least a couple of times since my father passed. (Once I used a different name because I had forgotten this one.). All previous problems worked out well enough.
My father had...