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    529Plan in NJ

    Do you have a clue about NPD? How do you think someone gets diagnosed? If you knew about the disorder you would know that even the most skilled psychologists have difficulty diagnosing it because the narcissist is so skilled at deflecting and manipulating. I contacted the DCCP (Division of...
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    529Plan in NJ

    Sadly look at what this has turned into. There was one simple legal question - is my ex entitled to stake a claim in a 529 Plan that was omitted from the settlement agreement. My ex never gave a damn about her daughter's future, but now she and her attorney are asserting that 50% of the value...
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    529Plan in NJ

    Trust me when I say I value this forum beyond anything I can express in words. Perhaps I am too sensitive and broken from all I have been through, but I cant help but feel frustrated when it appears my character is being attacked.
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    529Plan in NJ

    Now that was a disturbing message. Point out one question I did not answer. Secondly, you are wrong - I have sole physical custody of my daughter. I had to take over full custody due to child abuse issues. You are making assumptions.- which is wrong, understanding there are two sides to...
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    529Plan in NJ

    Again, please research Narcissistic Personality Disorder before "gaslighting" me. I did not realize my ex had this disorder at the time of my divorce. The mental abuse, gaslighting, brainwashing, manipulating my ex had done to me left me in such a compromised mental state I had no effing idea...
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    529Plan in NJ

    Thank you for pointing that out, please research Narcissistic Personality Disorder and perhaps you will gain some empathy towards my situation.
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    529Plan in NJ

    My ex always fought the idea of a 529 plan because her position was our daughter "can work her way through college, just like everybody else" (funny and true fact, I paid $45K to put my ex through college). When I inherited some money I paid off our HELO and paid down our mortgage I told her I...
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    529Plan in NJ

    I apologize Thank you
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    529Plan in NJ

    Forgive me if this is inappropriate. I have uploaded my divorce settlement agreement. Its very brief and a quick read. I have blackened out last names. I am losing faith in my attorney, she seems too distracted and does not pay attention to details and rather than taking a position she...
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    529Plan in NJ

    We are going through mediation in an attempt to settle post divorce debts she owes me and sell the marital residence. I am fuming because my ex's attorney made this assertion (that 50% of the value 529 plan at the date of divorce plus accrued earnings since - is attributable to my ex), the...
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    529Plan in NJ

    There is NO mention of college costs in the decree/agreement and NO mention of the 529 plan in the decree/agreement, period. I was looking to try and get her to contribute towards my daughter's college education and out of nowhere she is claiming she is entitled to a portion of the 529 plan. .
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    529Plan in NJ

    While married, against my ex-wife's wishes, I established a 529Plan for our daughter. I had inherited $163K, a portion of which was used to fund the plan. The value of the plan as of the date of divorce was $58K. In our original divorce settlement that was signed off by a judge, there was no...
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    Certificate of Occupancy obstacles

    Thanks all, apologies as I have a lot to learn. A few years ago I was looking to a purchase a townhome but multiple code violations were found upon inspection and the inspector told me I would not be able to get a CO until the violations were remedied (I ended up backing out as the seller...
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    Certificate of Occupancy obstacles

    In NJ if a home seller does not have a CO, the home must be sold "as is", which would yield a much lower sales price.
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