Recent content by 1dreastman

No problem, I'm don't think I was as clear as I could have been when I was first posting about her situation. Also, thanks for the FYI about the residency, that is an area I hadn't given any thought to.

We are advising her to get an attorney to cover herself and hopefully that attorney has a sense of the courts stand on custody there in VA and can advise her as to the best way to proceed to hopefully ensure a positive outcome for her and the child.

I wasn't real clear on that post. If she just move out from living with him, not leave the state now. She will be unable to leave the state until at least January-February 2012. So this gives her time to move from the house they are living in, wait a few days for the ashes to settle, file for...

We can only hope he does nothing when she decides to move, but he is VERY vindictive. She feels she should not file for custody until several days after leaving and he has had some time to calm down. I'm not in favor of doing it this way, but she ultimately has the burden of guilt if he files...

It's hard to believe that children continue to live in situations as you've described above, but I know it's true. Mom is working now, she was out of work due to an illness after the child was born, but had been working fulltime w/overtime previously to that for several years and previous to...

ArmyJudge, Well you have him pegged. Yes he has been through many many many jobs, has very little skills to earn any kind of money to support his family above the poverty level...some jobs he only worked one day at!UGH! It is so hard to understand how a man or woman can just sit around and...

There is much conflicting information, my poor brain!!LOL. First, if not married, the father has no rights to the child, but yet, if she wanted to leave the state suddenly he has all rights to prevent this? Something doesn't sound quite right there one way or the other. Not saying you're wrong...

I spoke to the Court Clerk

Correct, the court hasn't appointed custody yet, and they say there is no such thing as temporary custody until the hearing, so in the interim, her health and welfare hang in the balance and hope there is no emergency situation, which yes, there would be lots of help for, but again, there is no...

Ok everyone, I think we all agree there are as many opinions and thoughts about this situation as there are states in America. I thank each and everyone of you for your input, opinions, and thought provoking responses to me and each other. I had so much information from each side, I decided to...

So here is my last question about this. In Virginia if my daughter, as an unwed mother, petitions the court for custody, what is the procedure, specifically, does she petition and get custody paperwork the same day, does there have to be a hearing where both parties have to attend, and if so...

Thanks again everyone for all your knowledge and research. As I said before, it sounds as if even what the law regarding custody in VA is not cut and dry. So it sounds like the best thing is for her to petition the court for custody as she is leaving their joint home and after things die down...

I hope for that daily and have for years and whole heartly agree that it is time for her to DEAL with ALL her own issues, and yes a long history of bad choices. Yes she is a parent now and should be dealing. I can't tell you how much I agree with all you say....when we were growing into adults...

He is much in arrears and has already lost his license. He only got motivated to get his last 20 hrs per week job when they were going to put him in jail. He got "laid-off" from his fast food restaurant job last week and up til now has still not gone job hunting, even though he knows of several...

Bum he is, but thankfully our little granddaughter has several positive male influences in her life, father excluded. With hope she can move closer to the rest ofher family she will get to spend much more time with them.