- Jurisdiction
- California
Judge orders noncustodial parent to visit our child for Memorial day weekend. No set day or time, so assuming since the judge said weekend, it starts Saturday, as he is leaving it up to us to come to a compromise.
However the father refused to try and make any agreement, and simply told me "I'll be there to pick up (child's name) at (time) on Friday for my memorial day weekend."
I told him that there is no set time or day, so Saturday at (any time that works for him) will be the best. He refused to, and continued to demand me and send me long messages, threatening the cops, etc.
I ignored, and I told him to please follow court's orders (lawyer advised that it starts on a Saturday so I followed my lawyer's advice). I kept it very simple and followed court orders as is. I do not give in to his threatening messages that he keeps sending me on our court ordered website for our communication.
He ended up coming over on Friday, and I told him in person, "You can come back tomorrow as it is not your day with our child per court orders, and you refused to make any agreement with me." He proceed to scream at me in the front of the child and threatened to call the cops. I said go ahead, but cops never showed up and he left appx 30 minutes later and send me a message saying he's going to file a police report just for that. I ignored again.
Then he used this as a message saying I'm the one that screamed, and I'm the one that called the cops... etc etc. Same usual messages he would send. I still ignored them, as it is not a part of court orders or has anything to do with our child's visitation with him.
Keep in mind that his regular visitation is from Sunday (time) to Monday (time). (Along with other court ordered visitation days but I will not list them as they are not related to this issue at the moment). He end up picking up our child on Saturday at the given time, for his court ordered Memorial Day weekend, which was fine with me.
Now, he is threatening me (on the website) that he is going to keep our child until Tuesday, as he says it is Memorial day weekend, when Tuesday is a weekday and the court orders only states he has the child until Monday at (time). He also states that it is a part of the government time that considers Tuesday a weekend in part of Memorial day as well.... He expects me to be in compliance for whatever he demands me to do something. So, my question is, what happens if he does this? Since it is against the court orders, would he be found in contempt of court to have kept our child outside of court orders without any mutual agreement that he refused to have with me? What is my next step?
Thank you in advance
However the father refused to try and make any agreement, and simply told me "I'll be there to pick up (child's name) at (time) on Friday for my memorial day weekend."
I told him that there is no set time or day, so Saturday at (any time that works for him) will be the best. He refused to, and continued to demand me and send me long messages, threatening the cops, etc.
I ignored, and I told him to please follow court's orders (lawyer advised that it starts on a Saturday so I followed my lawyer's advice). I kept it very simple and followed court orders as is. I do not give in to his threatening messages that he keeps sending me on our court ordered website for our communication.
He ended up coming over on Friday, and I told him in person, "You can come back tomorrow as it is not your day with our child per court orders, and you refused to make any agreement with me." He proceed to scream at me in the front of the child and threatened to call the cops. I said go ahead, but cops never showed up and he left appx 30 minutes later and send me a message saying he's going to file a police report just for that. I ignored again.
Then he used this as a message saying I'm the one that screamed, and I'm the one that called the cops... etc etc. Same usual messages he would send. I still ignored them, as it is not a part of court orders or has anything to do with our child's visitation with him.
Keep in mind that his regular visitation is from Sunday (time) to Monday (time). (Along with other court ordered visitation days but I will not list them as they are not related to this issue at the moment). He end up picking up our child on Saturday at the given time, for his court ordered Memorial Day weekend, which was fine with me.
Now, he is threatening me (on the website) that he is going to keep our child until Tuesday, as he says it is Memorial day weekend, when Tuesday is a weekday and the court orders only states he has the child until Monday at (time). He also states that it is a part of the government time that considers Tuesday a weekend in part of Memorial day as well.... He expects me to be in compliance for whatever he demands me to do something. So, my question is, what happens if he does this? Since it is against the court orders, would he be found in contempt of court to have kept our child outside of court orders without any mutual agreement that he refused to have with me? What is my next step?
Thank you in advance