What obligation does the non-custodial parent (never married to the mother) have in regards to college tuition and expenses? For the record, I have always paid child support, unreimbursed medical expenses, and some extras. The choice of the college was never discussed with me until the decision was already made as to which college the child would be attending. It happens to be an expensive, out-of-state, private school. Couldn't the child support that I am paying her go directly to the college for the 9 mos that the child is at school and not living with the mother and then to the mother directly when the child is home from school? I earn a modest living. Modest being after child support & taxes and before paying any bills I earn approximately 25K. Any help with this is appreciated.