Scaredformykids
New Member
- Jurisdiction
- California
Hi. My ex and I have been seperated only 5 months. I am just starting the divorce process so there are no visitation orders yet. I have 2 young children who are with me pretty much full time. I have let dad see them and take them overnight a few times but my son, who is the oldest (4), does not want to stay overnight. This last weekend they were scheduled for a day trip and I was informed midday that my ex had recently moved in with his new girlfriend and her children. I have no problem with him seeing someone else but I do have a problem with said someone else and her children being around my children. They have never met them before to my knowledge. He would not disclose an address to me. Later that evening I was told they would be staying the night. I had to track down the address of where they were based on the little info I knew myself. The children were returned to me the next day with a lot to say. My son was scared because he had to sleep on a bed in a hot garage. Not a finished garage but next to a car. My daughter slept in the same bed as this woman's daughter. My mom was watching them for a bit after they came home and walked into their playroom to find my son on top of my daughter, clothes on, but humping her and sticking his finger in her mouth because "that's what I saw daddy do in the garage when he thought I was sleeping." I was informed daddy and his new girl were smoking in the truck when they were in the back seat. There were many other smaller incidents as well. I am so not ok with this and feel that is an unsafe environment for my children. So with that said do I have a leg to stand on? Can I withhold visitation until a court order is in place, or a check on the home, or background check of individuals living there, something? Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!