Miss_awesome19
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- Jurisdiction
- Alaska
It's hard to even know where to start. I am going through a divorce and it's not pretty. We pretty much only agree on the fact that we both want a divorce, and she wants her last name changed back, everything else is a mess. The hardest part right now is the custody of our 4 (older) children. From the very beginning after I moved out she has spoken bad about me, and said lies about me to our children. She tells them that I abandoned them and that I'm an alcoholic. She simply wouldn't let me see them for a while, even when they wanted to see me. She filed for a restraining order in February that I only just now found out about, claiming some seriously ludricrous things, that obviously the judge noticed because he didn't grant it. I barely talk to her, and since October I have seen her in person maybe 5 times. She claims I harass them and won't leave them alone. She lives in our large house on a lake, with our children. As our divorce is not final, it is still my property. I come and go to use my kayaks or jet ski, and get my mail. I never see her when I am there, and I never mess with her things. She has tried to tell me that I can't come on the property several times, even though I never even see her. She has now filed another restraining order on me saying that I was abusive to our son, which isn't true. she is saying that I was driving drunk with our daughter in the car, which isn't true. She is putting all of these things in emails too, because she says that she wants to have it all on paper. She is claiming that I talk to the kids about inappropriate things and I am drunk all the time. These things simply aren't true. She has now effectivly turned my children against me because they are believing her lies. I don't know what to do, I feel completely powerless. My hope is that our judge will see through all of her lies. Outside of our children she is also claiming I owe her spousal support and the 7k she racked up on her CC AFTER I moved out. She tried to take my car at one point, she tells the kids I am taking everything from the house, which is not the case. She had a garage sale and sold a bunch of our stuff when the court told her she couldn't in a divorce case. There is just way too much to list. I knew divorce wasn't pretty going into this, but I never knew it could get this ugly. I can't afford a lawyer at the moment. Some legal advise would be greatly appreciated.