stargazzzer
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I'm looking for some information about what can or is going to happen down the road. My situation is I'm pregnant by a man that I was with for about a year. It escalated into an abusive relationship during last few months. I did not go to the police until after I had moved all of my furniture out of our apartment and moved back in with my parents. The police and I agreed that it was not a good time to make an arrest, and the incidents had all occurred over a period of time in the past so it was difficult to press charges, but they did take a detailed statement from me describing everything he'd done to me and wrote a report that has menacing as the primary incident type and assault as the other incident type. I don't know why they didn't file it as domestic violence since I was pregnant during most of the assaults and they told me it was considered domestic violence. I plan on getting a protection order as soon as I can come up with the spare money for the fee. So my questions are regarding what will happen in a few months when the baby is born. He's told me he will fight to be able to see the child and his parents will help him with attorneys (ones that I definitely can't afford). I would be terrified to hand an infant to him. It scares me to even think about it. I work, I don't do drugs, drink, or smoke, I have some college under my belt, I was just naive and was manipulated into an awful situation that I'm now trying to fix as much as I can. Will the courts give him visitation? Custody? Is there anything I can do to keep him away from this child? Will the report taken help me? Sorry if this is a lot to read but it's a bit of a complicated situation and I'm not sure where to go from here. Any insight or advice would be very appreciated! I also want to add, because it was after I moved out I didn't have any physical marks on me, but when I realized I was going to have to leave the situation I started trying to document what was happening. This was hard because I was living with him so he regularly checked my phone and computer. I was able to hide in my email a video of him screaming at me and telling me if I left the apartment he would destroy everything I owned and one picture of finger shaped bruises on my face and neck. Also, we were never married. I don't know if these things could help me but I thought I would add them.
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