Custody agreement question

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needtoknow33

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In our papers it states we have joint custody, with me with primary and his father with secondary, but this was never explained to me what it means. Does this mean we both have to decide on something like if our child needed ADHD meds. Would he have to agree or does me having primary mean I have to ask him, but i make the final decision?
 
In our papers it states we have joint custody, with me with primary and his father with secondary, but this was never explained to me what it means. Does this mean we both have to decide on something like if our child needed ADHD meds. Would he have to agree or does me having primary mean I have to ask him, but i make the final decision?

You should have a discussion about your custody order with your attorney.

Maybe you didn't have an attorney while this matter was determined, that's okay.

You take all of your documents and find an attorney to explain EVERYTHING to you.

You can buy an hour of an attorney's time (on average and in may states) for anywhere between $200 to $500.
You can even buy 30 minutes from some attorneys.
So, make a few calls and obtain an appointment with family law or domestic relations attorney.

In answer to your question, you would be what we call in Texas, the managing conservator.

In your state, SC, you would be considered the person that manages the day to day decisions about the child.
That probably means you are the CUSTODIAL PARENT, especially if the child lives with you most of the time, except visits with the other parent.
Yes, you could probably decide if he takes drug XXX as opposed to drug QQQ.
But, without reading teh ENTIRE order, I'm just guessing.
You don't want guesses, that's why you BUY some time with an attorney so you will KNOW!!!!

Here are some good reads about custody, by practicing attorneys in SC:

http://www.scbar.org/public/files/docs/NoncustodialParentRightsinSC.pdf

http://www.gregoryforman.com/faqs/how-is-child-custody-determined/
 
You treat any issue with your child as you did prior to ending relationship. Its called co parenting more here http://www.parentnook.com/co-parenting-advice-for-your-children/ it is not so much about what court order says at this point. You both deicide together what is in child's best interest. You put your own feelings or lack of for each other aside and make decisions that benefit your mutual child. You "co parent"! If the issue is not resolved and it is a serious issue then and only then should you entertain taking this to court. Judges do not look kindly on parents who force court to help you two parent your child. Talk to the child's other parent and have an adult conversation on the child's needs and discuss what should be done to help child.
 
please delete this post as I do not see a way to do it myself. I was told this was a place to get real advice. obviously it is not.
 
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