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Hello- i am a 43 yr old disabled woman and the non-custodial parent (i have legal joint custody with my exhusband) of my 13 year old daughter in tx. My ex husband and his new wife have done everything possible to keep my daughter from her visitation with me , off and on since about 2008. As of today 12/14/2013 , I havent had one court ordered visit with her since 11/17/12 . They broke the court order, but know that i have very little money and cant afford an attorney . Legal aid wont help because its not an emergency situation. there is more to the story. I got in some legal trouble several months ago (for the first time ever in 43 years of life)I went to court and received probation. my charge was a non-violent , first offense. I got defferred adjudication so when I finish my probation, it will not even go on my record. I havent been perfect. My legal problem was a one-time mistake I made. I was going to discuss it with my daughter when she was a few years older and the time was right. I didnt feel like this was the best time. Her dad and step-mom new how I felt about this and
*immediately told my daughter everything plus details that were completely untrue. They also told my daughter that I never planned on telling her and keeping it all a secret from her because I was a selfish person and didn't care about other peoples feelings. Before they completely cut off my communication with my daughter last year, her step-mom would make it a point to always know where I was (she would call me every single day, first from her phone but I would see it was her calling so I wouldn't answer (she new I didn't like her calling me every day for no real reason, why should i have to check-in with her daily unless its concerning my daughter?) a couple of seconds after that I would receive another phone call- this time from my daughters cell phone. When I answered my phone it would be the step-mom with the same old story that her cell phone battery was dead so she was having to use my daughters phone to call. Sometimes she would also contact my family members or friends to
*talk to and ask questions about me. Do I have a boyfriend? have I bought anything new lately? am I hanging out with anyone new? Am I working? where at? how long? hanging out, what is going on on my life. I don't understand her why she does this- for my ex maybe? I don't know and really don't care- I just want my to see my daughter regularly and have the wonderful relationship with her that we both deserve. I pay my part of child support . I am a responsible mom and always have been. I have always loved being with my daughter, when I was the custodial (birth 2000-2010) and the non-custodial parent (2010-2013). *I had to divorce my ex husband even though I loved him. One day he got angry over a picture being out of place on the wall and got violent toward me . After that first time he hurt me it never stopped. Ironically he loves our daughter always treated very good. As for me the abuse gradually got worse . We divorced in 2005 ( legal aid helped me thank god) I had a protective order against him for 2 years immediately after that . He told me back then that he would get even someday. I didn't care what he said , I was just happy to be away from him. *Now it seems like he and his wife are using my child to take out his never ending anger at me. Whats worse is that they have also included my mother in there alienation campaign. its extremely sad for my mom
*because my daughter is her first grandchild and they were always extremely close until the last 1-2 years. Being disabled, I am on a fixed income and I have applied at 2 programs - My case didn't qualify for either. I would love any advice you may have. You know the weirdest part of this Parental Alienation is that my own father did exactly the same thing to my mother and me (I was 11yrs old) when she divorced him. I had no contact with my mom for 9 yrs. *I am happy to tell you that she and I live together and have a wonderful relationship- she*loves and misses my daughter -just as much as me. Thank you for any help/info you can give. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
Hello- i am a 43 yr old disabled woman and the non-custodial parent (i have legal joint custody with my exhusband) of my 13 year old daughter in tx. My ex husband and his new wife have done everything possible to keep my daughter from her visitation with me , off and on since about 2008. As of today 12/14/2013 , I havent had one court ordered visit with her since 11/17/12 . They broke the court order, but know that i have very little money and cant afford an attorney . Legal aid wont help because its not an emergency situation. there is more to the story. I got in some legal trouble several months ago (for the first time ever in 43 years of life)I went to court and received probation. my charge was a non-violent , first offense. I got defferred adjudication so when I finish my probation, it will not even go on my record. I havent been perfect. My legal problem was a one-time mistake I made. I was going to discuss it with my daughter when she was a few years older and the time was right. I didnt feel like this was the best time. Her dad and step-mom new how I felt about this and
*immediately told my daughter everything plus details that were completely untrue. They also told my daughter that I never planned on telling her and keeping it all a secret from her because I was a selfish person and didn't care about other peoples feelings. Before they completely cut off my communication with my daughter last year, her step-mom would make it a point to always know where I was (she would call me every single day, first from her phone but I would see it was her calling so I wouldn't answer (she new I didn't like her calling me every day for no real reason, why should i have to check-in with her daily unless its concerning my daughter?) a couple of seconds after that I would receive another phone call- this time from my daughters cell phone. When I answered my phone it would be the step-mom with the same old story that her cell phone battery was dead so she was having to use my daughters phone to call. Sometimes she would also contact my family members or friends to
*talk to and ask questions about me. Do I have a boyfriend? have I bought anything new lately? am I hanging out with anyone new? Am I working? where at? how long? hanging out, what is going on on my life. I don't understand her why she does this- for my ex maybe? I don't know and really don't care- I just want my to see my daughter regularly and have the wonderful relationship with her that we both deserve. I pay my part of child support . I am a responsible mom and always have been. I have always loved being with my daughter, when I was the custodial (birth 2000-2010) and the non-custodial parent (2010-2013). *I had to divorce my ex husband even though I loved him. One day he got angry over a picture being out of place on the wall and got violent toward me . After that first time he hurt me it never stopped. Ironically he loves our daughter always treated very good. As for me the abuse gradually got worse . We divorced in 2005 ( legal aid helped me thank god) I had a protective order against him for 2 years immediately after that . He told me back then that he would get even someday. I didn't care what he said , I was just happy to be away from him. *Now it seems like he and his wife are using my child to take out his never ending anger at me. Whats worse is that they have also included my mother in there alienation campaign. its extremely sad for my mom
*because my daughter is her first grandchild and they were always extremely close until the last 1-2 years. Being disabled, I am on a fixed income and I have applied at 2 programs - My case didn't qualify for either. I would love any advice you may have. You know the weirdest part of this Parental Alienation is that my own father did exactly the same thing to my mother and me (I was 11yrs old) when she divorced him. I had no contact with my mom for 9 yrs. *I am happy to tell you that she and I live together and have a wonderful relationship- she*loves and misses my daughter -just as much as me. Thank you for any help/info you can give. * * * * * * * * * * * * * * * *
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