kyxacoceka
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Hello all my wife is divorcing me in New York.
Our relationship is very amicable and we have come to a very pleasing verbal agreement between the two of us on how to proceed with the divorce. She has gotten a lawyer to help her with the paper work and filing; I don't plan to contest the divorce and have confidence that my wife doest wish to harm me in the divorce so I have not gotten my own lawyer hoping to save money.
My main and only real concern is insuring that the custody agreement is correct and benefits me and wife equally.
I have read a lot about the term "Joint Physical Custody" and how it is different than "Joint Custody"; in that "Joint Custody" is only about legal custody and "Joint Physical Custody" is more broad and encompassing.
Can anyone explain to me how these terms and ideas apply to New York law?
My wife and I are interested in both my wife and I having the full and utmost amount of custody over our child; a full partnership in the raising of our child; and an arrangement where the child will live with each of us as close to as equal amount of time that is logistically possible.
In the preliminary paper work that my wife got from her lawyer; it stipulated that we would have joint custody over the child with my wife being the custodial parent. It than included passages regarding my visitation rights; and how I must agree/insure to haveadult supervision over the child during my visitation periods; and how I would need to contact my wife a certain amount of time before I exercised my visitations, ect ect.
This custody stipulation does not come off as being correct to me. It seems as though I am just being seen as a visitor of my child (even a dirt bag in some sections) and not a 50/50 partner. My wife agrees that she does not like how the custody agreement is written.
We are going to go talk to her lawyer about this in the next few days and I wanted to get some more information on the topic, so that I know what questions to ask, and what we need to ask for.
Any help would be greatly appreciated
Best Regards
Dante
Our relationship is very amicable and we have come to a very pleasing verbal agreement between the two of us on how to proceed with the divorce. She has gotten a lawyer to help her with the paper work and filing; I don't plan to contest the divorce and have confidence that my wife doest wish to harm me in the divorce so I have not gotten my own lawyer hoping to save money.
My main and only real concern is insuring that the custody agreement is correct and benefits me and wife equally.
I have read a lot about the term "Joint Physical Custody" and how it is different than "Joint Custody"; in that "Joint Custody" is only about legal custody and "Joint Physical Custody" is more broad and encompassing.
Can anyone explain to me how these terms and ideas apply to New York law?
My wife and I are interested in both my wife and I having the full and utmost amount of custody over our child; a full partnership in the raising of our child; and an arrangement where the child will live with each of us as close to as equal amount of time that is logistically possible.
In the preliminary paper work that my wife got from her lawyer; it stipulated that we would have joint custody over the child with my wife being the custodial parent. It than included passages regarding my visitation rights; and how I must agree/insure to haveadult supervision over the child during my visitation periods; and how I would need to contact my wife a certain amount of time before I exercised my visitations, ect ect.
This custody stipulation does not come off as being correct to me. It seems as though I am just being seen as a visitor of my child (even a dirt bag in some sections) and not a 50/50 partner. My wife agrees that she does not like how the custody agreement is written.
We are going to go talk to her lawyer about this in the next few days and I wanted to get some more information on the topic, so that I know what questions to ask, and what we need to ask for.
Any help would be greatly appreciated
Best Regards
Dante