newhampgirl
New Member
Hello, I am in a situation with a neighbor who is using the police to harrass me, Let me give you some background on the "situation", this neighbor and I had become very good friends, at one point when my daughter broke up with her boyfriend, "Neighbor" offered to rent her and my granddaughter part of her house, as our friendship went on my neighbor fell in love with me, I know this because she told me, I explained I was not lesbian and love her dearly but not in that way, anyway it started getting pretty weird, at one point she threatened to blow her brains out because I took another call and she felt "jilted by me", so I walked on eggshells around her afraid she would actually committ suicide, as I drifted slowly away from her, she tightened her grip on me, threatening to throw my kids out of her house and such, I told her that I did not feel we could be friends anymore and the "doo doo hit the fan", she called me screaming she was throwing my kids things out onto the street, now keep in my mind she NEVER told them she wanted them to move, she was only mad at me, anyway due to the fact that we were friends my daughter had always paid her in cash for rent and she was paid up until the end of last month and she threw them out on the 10th of month, My kids were gone for the day, she called me screaming that she was throwing their things out on the street, I stated to her if she touched their belongings that I would call the police, next thing I know police are at my door stating to me that what she was doing was completely within her right, and they had to go IMMEDIATELY! ... I called daughter told her to come home and the officer stood by while they moved out, they allowed her to throw my young daughter out and my 10 yr old grand daughter OUT, anyway I moved them in with me, and shortly later they have another apt and are very happy, since they have moved this "neighbor" has broken a window in my shed and broke in, she stole a snowmobile right off of my property and took it right over to her residence in plain view, I was shocked, but I felt at this time even giving this nutcase any kind of attention would just make things worse, it was like she WANTED me to call the police on her, I went to the police station out of view of her and filed a police report and told them the situation, and stated to them I just want to do this quietly and have record of the incident in case anything else occurs, that she could keep anything she had stolen as long as she would leave me alone!! Next day I am headed to work to care for a disabled boy who I always get off of the bus and care for him until his parents arrive home, police were at the corner and pulled me over, let me state that the car I was driving I had just purchased and had put my old plates on it until I could get it registered the next day on Friday, payday, turns out they had been to my house before I had even left for work due to her calling them, and ran my plates they KNEW before they pulled me over that they didn't match, they arrested me and took my car into impound, (( they had a tow truck driver on standby cause they already knew they were taking my car)) I spoke to officer in length about the situation and the obsession this neighbor is having with me, and asked for advice , his advice is to not give her any ammo. this same neighbor has the same thing going on with her vehicle except her car has had bad plates on it for months, I did tell the police that and they said they would investigate it, (( but they havent')) ..now another factor is this , it is a small town, she grew up here and has family ties here, I am not a native, yet have lived here for 9 years with no incidents with police of any kind...
I filed a "stalking restraining order" on her , since we are not nor have never been a couple it could not be a regular restraining order, we are going to court next month for that, I just hate even seeing her, I am afraid just seeing me is causing her to lash out more and more, and since i KNOW she has guns I am afraid for my life, I have flood lights installed now all over my property, my question is what else can I do?
I am at a loss on how to handle this situation, with a normal person I could just talk to her and try to resolve but she isn't normal...and I am afraid that any conversation with her will make things worse, is this legal what she is doing? I know she told me that the police here she has known since they were little boys, and if they ever gave her any crap she would spank them!! since she used to babysit a few of them..
The officer that arrested me did feel bad that it had all happened after I told him the story but the wheels had already been put in motion, I dont think he will bother me again..but there is 5 more cops in the area..sigh
thank you in advance for any advice you can give me to resolve this matter..
I filed a "stalking restraining order" on her , since we are not nor have never been a couple it could not be a regular restraining order, we are going to court next month for that, I just hate even seeing her, I am afraid just seeing me is causing her to lash out more and more, and since i KNOW she has guns I am afraid for my life, I have flood lights installed now all over my property, my question is what else can I do?
I am at a loss on how to handle this situation, with a normal person I could just talk to her and try to resolve but she isn't normal...and I am afraid that any conversation with her will make things worse, is this legal what she is doing? I know she told me that the police here she has known since they were little boys, and if they ever gave her any crap she would spank them!! since she used to babysit a few of them..
The officer that arrested me did feel bad that it had all happened after I told him the story but the wheels had already been put in motion, I dont think he will bother me again..but there is 5 more cops in the area..sigh
thank you in advance for any advice you can give me to resolve this matter..