Hello everyone.
Recently I was accused at work of having an affair with a female member. I work for a major company and have 90 people that work under my direction. 2 4 months ago a position came available and The director and I decided to promote a female member that had been working as a back up person in the position for the past 2 years.
We ran into a snag over a technicality, we were able to iron it out and promote the member. Several rumors started circulating that she had obtained the position since because she was on her knees. I informed my boss about it and he responded that we didn't have proof on the person that started the rumor and couldn't act on it.
A director position opened up in my area and I interviewed and made the final cut to take the position it was clear that I would be the one receiving the promotion. I had planned a vacation to Las Vegas and then I would resume my new assignment. Well It was postponed and I wasn't told why. All I was told position is still available and we are looking at all possible candidates. Which I was o.k. at this point I figured they might have someone better for the position.
Last Thursday I get hit with this accusation. They have not been able to interview the member in question since she has not returned back from her family emergency. They now believe that I am trying to keep her away from work so she will not say anything. I explained to him her situation and why she was out of the country she will be back this Friday 11/23/07 and I will be cleared.
I've never felt this way before where my integrity was questioned and gossip is circulating the work place. I feel like my reputation has been damaged. I am still an authority figure at my work. But I feel uneasy at work afraid of doing my job, thinking that someone else will take a cheap shoot at me. This whole process has made me feel like am guilty until proven innocent. My D.M. hasn't called and I feel like I was left out to dry.
I've always kept my distance with all my members as they always invite me to hang out socially. I've acomodated all my members in any way that I could with their schedules. I've been fair with males and females taking into consideration all their requests.
I am stuck here feeling lost and uneasy. I have a great wife and she has supported me through this disturbing and painful strain on my being. What should I do. I'm ready to sue the individual if I ever find out who he/she is. And as well as my company. Not for investigating the matter. Just for making my situation unhealthy. I would of rather been accused of robbing a bank. At least there I would of been innocent until proven guilty. Any advice?
Thank You.
Recently I was accused at work of having an affair with a female member. I work for a major company and have 90 people that work under my direction. 2 4 months ago a position came available and The director and I decided to promote a female member that had been working as a back up person in the position for the past 2 years.
We ran into a snag over a technicality, we were able to iron it out and promote the member. Several rumors started circulating that she had obtained the position since because she was on her knees. I informed my boss about it and he responded that we didn't have proof on the person that started the rumor and couldn't act on it.
A director position opened up in my area and I interviewed and made the final cut to take the position it was clear that I would be the one receiving the promotion. I had planned a vacation to Las Vegas and then I would resume my new assignment. Well It was postponed and I wasn't told why. All I was told position is still available and we are looking at all possible candidates. Which I was o.k. at this point I figured they might have someone better for the position.
Last Thursday I get hit with this accusation. They have not been able to interview the member in question since she has not returned back from her family emergency. They now believe that I am trying to keep her away from work so she will not say anything. I explained to him her situation and why she was out of the country she will be back this Friday 11/23/07 and I will be cleared.
I've never felt this way before where my integrity was questioned and gossip is circulating the work place. I feel like my reputation has been damaged. I am still an authority figure at my work. But I feel uneasy at work afraid of doing my job, thinking that someone else will take a cheap shoot at me. This whole process has made me feel like am guilty until proven innocent. My D.M. hasn't called and I feel like I was left out to dry.
I've always kept my distance with all my members as they always invite me to hang out socially. I've acomodated all my members in any way that I could with their schedules. I've been fair with males and females taking into consideration all their requests.
I am stuck here feeling lost and uneasy. I have a great wife and she has supported me through this disturbing and painful strain on my being. What should I do. I'm ready to sue the individual if I ever find out who he/she is. And as well as my company. Not for investigating the matter. Just for making my situation unhealthy. I would of rather been accused of robbing a bank. At least there I would of been innocent until proven guilty. Any advice?
Thank You.