Child Custody

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berti

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6 YEARS AGO, I DIVORCED AND REMARRIED. MY EX PUT ME AND MY CHILDREN THROUGH THE RINGER. HE TOOK ME TO COURT OVER AND OVER UNTIL I HAD TO LET MY ATTORNEY GO BECAUSE i COULDNT PAY HIM. WE BATTLED FOR CHILD CUSTODY. IN THE MEANTIME I HAD A BABY GIRL WITH MY NEW HUBBY. MY EX TRICKED MY NEW HUSBAND INTO BELIEVING I HAD DONE WRONG IN OUR MARRIAGE. NEW HUBBY ASKED NO QUESTIONS AND STARTED TREATING ME AND KIDS BAD, SO I KICKED HIM OUT. HE WENT TO LIVE WITH HIS MOTHER AND TEAMED UP WITH MY EX TO CRUCIFY ME IN COURT, WHICH THEY DID. AT THE TIME I WAS HAVING ISSUES WITH MY ELDEST SON AND HE NEEDED TREATMENT. I HAD 2 BABIES PLUS THIS ELDEST CHILD. ONE BABY, BELONGING TO EX HUBBY AND ONE TO HUBBY I HAD RECENTLY SEPARATED FROM,(HUBBY2) HUBBY 2'S MOTHER HEARD OF MY TROUBLES AND TOLD ME SHE WOULD TAKE MY BABIES AND CARE FOR THEM UNTIL I HAD FINISHED THAT DAY AT THE MENTAL HEALTH CENTER WITH MY ELDEST SON. I DIDNT WANT TO AND SAID NO INITIALLY, THEN SAW WHAT THE BABIES WERE WITNESSING AND CHANGED MY MIND. SHE SAID SHE WOULD GET ONE BABY TO HIS VISITATION AND TAKE CARE OF OTHER UNTIL I WAS THROUGH. i TOOK CARE OF ELDEST SON AND CALLED TO PICK UP BABY. SHE TOLD ME NO I COULDNT PICK HER UP AND MY HUBBY(2) GOT ON PHONE AND CUSSED ME SAYING I WAS ADULTEROUS ETC AND I COULDNT GET BABY BACK.(WHICH IS WHAT HUBBY 1 LED HIM TO BELIEVE) I WAS OUTRAGED AND HURT. WENT TO LAWYERS, POLICE ETC. AND WAS TOLD SINCE HUBBY 2 WAS BABY'S DADDY AND THERE WAS NO ORDER OF DIVORCE OR CUSTODY, BASICALLY I COULD DO NOTHING. THIS CHILD WAS KEPT FROM ME 4 MONTHS, I MISSED HER FIRST BIRTHDAY. POLICE SAID UNTIL I WENT TO COURT AND HAD SOME SORT OF COURT DOC THERE WAS NOTHING I COULD DO. (I NEVER DID HUBBY 2 WRONG) SO IN ORDER TO SEE MY KID, I HAD TO FILE FOR DIVORCE, WHICH I DIDNT WANT TO DO, NEVER WANTED DIVORCE JUST WANTED TO SEE DAUGHTER. ONCE PAPERS WERE SERVED THEY SET IMMEDIATE CHILD CUSTODY HEARING. (INVESTIGATING WITH GUARDIAN AD LITEM ONGOING THROUGH PROCESS) MY EX TEAMED UP WITH HUBBY 2 AND CRUCIFIED ME IN COURT. I GOT VISITATION, THAT DAY AND WAS ORDERED TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT, HUBBY 2 GOT CUSTODY.(ALSO SOMETHING FISHY WENT ON WITH AD LITEM, BUT I WAS NEVER ABLE TO PROVE, LIKE SHE WAS BOUGHT OFF) ANYWAY, OUR HEARING FOR DIVORCE WAS SET UP AND BEFORE WE WENT TO HEARING WE GOT BACK TOGETHER.(HUBBY 2 REALIZED HE HAD BEEN SNUFFED BY HUBBY 1) WE WENT TO HEARING HAND IN HAND AND DIDNT DIVORCE. ALL OF THIS HAPPENED IN STATE OF SOUTH CAROLINA. WELL IT IS 6 YEARS LATER AND MARRIAGE IS ROCKY, THOUGHT OF LEAVING BUT DONT WANT TO LEAVE MY DAUGHTER. MY QUESTION IS, I LIVE IN NORTH CAROLINA NOW AND I WANT TO KNOW THAT SINCE WE GOT BACK TOGETHER AND NEVER DIVORCED, DOES THAT CUSTODY ORDER STILL STAND? CAN I LEAVE AND TAKE DAUGHTER AND APPLY FOR DIVORCE WITHOUT CONSEQUENCE.? DOES THAT ORDER STAND, CAN I GET NEW ORDER, IS OLD ONE VOID AND HAVE TO RE DO IT OR DOES IT STAND IN NORTH CAROLINA AS IT STOOD IN SOUTH CAROLINA, DOES BEING BACK TOGETHER MAKE OLD ORDER NULL AND VOID? PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHAT RIGHTS I HAVE. THANKS
BERTI
 
Only a lawyer looking at the order can tell you if it still will stand.
 
well i can tell u that the state that both parents live in now has jurisdiction.my sister is also going through similar battle. her hubby claimed she was an alcoholic and got an emergency exparte order which is a temporary order. all it takes is one lie to gain custody. i am not a lawyer or anything like that but i can tell you from recent experience this exparte is what u need to get if u are infact thinking of leaving.
 
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