Hello all,
I'm a divorsed dad and have my son week on week off. I pay all of his schooling needs as well as cover all of his medical needs (what insurance doesn't pay). My Ex and I have been living with this arrangement for about 5 years now. We were divorced in California where she declined Alimony and only stipulated that I pay for his schooling (whatever school she choose) up to $800 a month which would constitue as child support. He now attends public school and I am paying her the money that would have gone to a school. In the divorce however it stipulated that since we were both moving to Washington State, that that would be the childs home state.
1st. Question is what state laws apply if I try to get the CS amended?
2nd Question is - Is it possible to not have to pay any CS as we are opporating under a 50/50 situation? In the divorse it states that we have 50/50 physical custody but in any unresolved situation she has the final say. I would also like that changed as she has not made the most intelligent discisions for our son.
At the time of our divorse, I made hardly and money. Now I make a good amount and she is always coming to me when times are rough for her telling me it's my resposibility.
I don't see this as fair. I work my a** off to do well and she is lazy but is being rewarded for it. I support my son and pay for everything and have physical custody 50% of the time.
So the big question is, am I just SOL or do I have a chance of winning this battle? Do I need to go after primary custody? Do I even stand a chance of getting it? Seems like a woman can have no job, be lazy, be on crack and still get primary custody even with 50% custody. I'm not looking to rip the kid away from his mom. I know kids need both sides. I'm just not willing to give her money for the privelage of having such a wonder son.
Any advice would be appreciated. I'm tired of her holding my son over my head for money.
Thanks
Misterman
I'm a divorsed dad and have my son week on week off. I pay all of his schooling needs as well as cover all of his medical needs (what insurance doesn't pay). My Ex and I have been living with this arrangement for about 5 years now. We were divorced in California where she declined Alimony and only stipulated that I pay for his schooling (whatever school she choose) up to $800 a month which would constitue as child support. He now attends public school and I am paying her the money that would have gone to a school. In the divorce however it stipulated that since we were both moving to Washington State, that that would be the childs home state.
1st. Question is what state laws apply if I try to get the CS amended?
2nd Question is - Is it possible to not have to pay any CS as we are opporating under a 50/50 situation? In the divorse it states that we have 50/50 physical custody but in any unresolved situation she has the final say. I would also like that changed as she has not made the most intelligent discisions for our son.
At the time of our divorse, I made hardly and money. Now I make a good amount and she is always coming to me when times are rough for her telling me it's my resposibility.
I don't see this as fair. I work my a** off to do well and she is lazy but is being rewarded for it. I support my son and pay for everything and have physical custody 50% of the time.
So the big question is, am I just SOL or do I have a chance of winning this battle? Do I need to go after primary custody? Do I even stand a chance of getting it? Seems like a woman can have no job, be lazy, be on crack and still get primary custody even with 50% custody. I'm not looking to rip the kid away from his mom. I know kids need both sides. I'm just not willing to give her money for the privelage of having such a wonder son.
Any advice would be appreciated. I'm tired of her holding my son over my head for money.
Thanks
Misterman